Ideal launch conditions are ideal launch conditions for a WIDE range of wind and weather conditions. You don't really ever want to deviate much from them. So "windy" and "wet" don't change the fact that your ideal launch is still going to be about the same as when it's calm and dry.
Sounds like you should learn the rules better:
25-2. Embedded Ball
A ball embedded in its own pitch-mark in the ground in any closely mown areathrough the green may be lifted, cleaned and dropped, without penalty, as near as possible to the spot where it lay but not nearer the hole. The ball when dropped must first strike a part of the coursethrough the green. “Closely mown area” means any area of the course, including paths through the rough, cut to fairway height or less.
1. You should come to this: http://thesandtrap.com/t/67534/first-annual-pittsburgh-erie-cleveland-get-together-august-3 .
2. Stick with what you've got. Almost everyone seems to think they need to hit the ball lower off the tee. They're almost all wrong.