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I never lost my temper at the golf course until the last time I went out. I've been playing less and, as such, getting worse. It's very frustrating to start losing ability after working hard over a long time to get better.

So, it was bad day. 18th hole, I crank out a perfect drive on a par 5. It's short for a par 5 and I really knocked it, so it was reachable in 2. I superchunked my hybrid and put it RIGHT behind a tree. No play but to knock it sideways. I had a long 7-iron into the green and threw a dart and it held. Right then and there, all my frustration took over and I whacked the side of my bag with the 7-iron. Besides breaking the bag's leg and the brush tool that was on it, I snapped my Fujikura shaft on my driver - the one I paid to have 'pure'd.

I was amazed I lost control and really ashamed of myself. I hate people on the golf course who do that kind of thing.

I don't even want to go out again until I figure out how to make sure THAT never happens again.

Driver: Nike Ignite 10.5 w/ Fujikura Motore F1
2H: King Cobra
4H: Nickent 4DX
5H: Adams A3
6I 7I 8I 9I PW: Mizuno mp-57Wedges: Mizuno MP T-10 50, 54, 58 Ball: random

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I have to ask... how does a 22 handicapper get that pissed about being on a green in one over regulation? My handicap is half of yours, yet I can simply accept that I don't always hit great shots. When that happens, it happens. It happened more than once today, and it will probably happen the next time I play too. I shake my head and get over it.

In your position as you described it, I'd have just been happy to be looking at a putt for par, certainly nothing there to throw a tantrum over. If I do that 2 or 3 times on the same hole, them maybe I get a bit peeved, but otherwise I just live with my shortcomings.

Rick

"He who has the fastest cart will never have a bad lie."

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I have to ask... how does a 22 handicapper get that pissed about being on a green in one over regulation? My handicap is half of yours, yet I can simply accept that I don't always hit great shots. When that happens, it happens. It happened more than once today, and it will probably happen the next time I play too. I shake my head and get over it.

The whole day's frustration came out after that shot. It wasn't my potential score on the hole (I bogeyed it - an under handicap play), or the shot itself (which was a good one), I was just angry and disappointed that my game has gone to crap over the last eight rounds or so and it's just going to get worse as I have less and less time to play.

And that's the first and only tantrum I've thrown on a golf course and it lasted all of 5 seconds. Still, I don't want to see that again.

Driver: Nike Ignite 10.5 w/ Fujikura Motore F1
2H: King Cobra
4H: Nickent 4DX
5H: Adams A3
6I 7I 8I 9I PW: Mizuno mp-57Wedges: Mizuno MP T-10 50, 54, 58 Ball: random

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I don't even want to go out again until I figure out how to make sure THAT never happens again.

YOU and only you control your behavior... big deal you hit a green in one over regulation and still had a chance to make par. That is nothing to snap your driver shaft over...

I hope you learned your lesson, next time act like a man and accept the fact you hit a bad shot.
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Oh, never mind.

Driver: Nike Ignite 10.5 w/ Fujikura Motore F1
2H: King Cobra
4H: Nickent 4DX
5H: Adams A3
6I 7I 8I 9I PW: Mizuno mp-57Wedges: Mizuno MP T-10 50, 54, 58 Ball: random

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Everybody has a bad round once in a while. It's how you come back and challenge yourself the next time your out, is what matters. Don't worry about it, get back out there and start enjoying the game.

Driver: Tour Burner TP 9.5* Whiteboard Stiff
Hybrid: Rescue Dual 19*
Irons: 4-pw Mp-32 S300
Wedges: Vokey Spin Milled 56* and 60*
Putter: Newport 2 34" 340gBall: Pro-V1 or NXT-tourShoes: Adidas Tour 360 LTD

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I feel for you, I've been in the same situation where my game just disappeared for a couple of months and it can be incredibly frustrating. I wouldn't worry about it too much, it happened and there's not a lot you can do about it now. Look at the positive, if you ever find yourself in the same situation you'll have a vivid memory to jump out at you and prevent a further display in future so long as you remember the consequences.
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It happens.

I've often said, there are days when I wished that I threw clubs!

In David's bag....

Driver: Titleist 910 D-3;  9.5* Diamana Kai'li
3-Wood: Titleist 910F;  15* Diamana Kai'li
Hybrids: Titleist 910H 19* and 21* Diamana Kai'li
Irons: Titleist 695cb 5-Pw

Wedges: Scratch 51-11 TNC grind, Vokey SM-5's;  56-14 F grind and 60-11 K grind
Putter: Scotty Cameron Kombi S
Ball: ProV1

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I had a friend that was a really solid player, at least once a summer he would lose his temper, and explode. It actually would help him, not that I condone it, but the release would clear his mind and he would usually starting playing good golf. He never busted up as much equipment as you did in you one tantrum, but he did toss a putter in the lake once. (and he putted left handed and we were on a trip on the RTJ Golf Trail so he had to put with a $5 putt putt putter for the rest of the trip)

It really only hurt you, but not everyone would be as forgiving, find a release that is a little more appropriate.

Craig 

Yeah, wanna make 14 dollars the hard way?

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I think what a man does when he is angry over a non-serious situation(such as golf) shows a restricted level of what he would do when he is really mad over something serious. Honestly, if you will break a club just because you hit one bad shot, even when you are a 22 handicap, I don't care if it was one time or not, you need to see a psychiatrist. If at your playing level you will pissed about missing one green, I'd love to see what happens if someone cuts you off, or someone rear ends you. Honestly I'm a 5 handicap and I miss plently of greens, yet I've never ever altered or damaged a club in anger. I think it also shows how low one's stress tolerance is. If one bad shot causes you to flip, that's pretty scary. It reminds me of the "going postal" incident in the 80s, where mailmen killed their bosses and co-workers, merely because they thought they were being stressed too much. Are you kidding me? Being a mail-man is stressfull? Imagine what the troops in Iraq are going through when they go to help a man who's been shot, and they find it's their best friend.
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Oh, never mind.

I feel your pain.

It's only a matter of time before my handicap begins creeping back up due to the way I've been playing lately. It is frustrating when you know you're capable of better play but just can't seem to make it happen. The good news/bad news in this is that you've taught yourself an expensive lesson. Now you have to figure out how better to channel this anger and frustration in a way that you find more acceptable. The money lost hurts but I imagine you're more embarrased you lost control on the course in front of others. Spend some time considering what exactly it was that upset you so much and what you can do to mitigate the underlying problem. Maybe you need to stop keeping score for a while and just figure out a way to enjoy playing golf without any pressure on your game? One of the biggest problems we all face in golf is in our head. Get past that and lower scores will follow. Obviously we can't expect to play tour caliber golf, but when your head is a mess you certainly can't expect to play to your potential...

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Nike Machspeed 4W 17*, 7W 21* stock stiff shafts
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Oh dont worry about it. I broke 4 of my clubs last season. lol.
THE WEAPONS CACHE..

Titleist 909 D2 9.5 Degree Driver| Titleist 906f4 13.5 degree 3-Wood | Titleist 909 17 & 21 degree hybrid | Titleist AP2 irons
Titleist Vokey Wedges - 52 & 58 | Scotty Cameron Studio Select Newport 2 Putter | ProV1 Ball
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^ and ^^ thanks!

Nobody saw me, I made sure of that. I feel bad about breaking the driver, but I also have 2 R7s, 1 Sumo, 1 Nickent, 1 Adams, 1 Titleist, and one Maxfli driver waiting to take the place of the wasted stick. I took out the Nickent today and played OK, then went to the driving range and worked out a swing that produced some pretty good results. The rest of my game was really good today, too - I had par on 6 or 7 holes.

I think I had a lot of stress and it just came out on the golf course - where it shoudl not. Golf should be the escape from everything! I got my head straight before I went out today and had a good time.

Meanwhile, I've decided to NOT take the advice from Sigmond Freud, Jr., and see a psychiatrist. I just don't believe his analysis that I am a ticking time bomb...

Driver: Nike Ignite 10.5 w/ Fujikura Motore F1
2H: King Cobra
4H: Nickent 4DX
5H: Adams A3
6I 7I 8I 9I PW: Mizuno mp-57Wedges: Mizuno MP T-10 50, 54, 58 Ball: random

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i say stop keeping score- permanently. i mean when you go out on the course, never write down the scores you get or even play a honest game. get rid of your handicap. if you don't have the time to play to get better, just play to have fun, and enjoy the good shots you have throughout a round. Once you get more time, and can start improving your game, keep score again... if you have a bad shot drop another ball (pace permiting) and play the second one.

I bet you felt really bad after you found out the damage you did- seems like you overreacted but didn't do anything way over the line, but was overly punished for it

driver: taylormade r7 superquad
woods: taylormade r7 tp 3 wood, r7 steel 4 wood, hybrid 2
irons: taylormade rac lt
wedges: taylormade tp
putter: scotty cameron santa fe

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Sounds like breaking that shaft will ensure it doesn't happen again. Everyone hits a bad shot now and again. If your game is in the crapper because you don't have as much time. Just remember why your playing in the first place and enjoy yourself.
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I recognize myself a lot when i´m reading your text. The same thing happend to me last summer.
I had a short wedge left to the hole after hitting a perfect drive. I had a great score that day. -2 to the last hole.
And I was so confident but a little bit nervous, because that would be my best score in my life.

Well, when i hit that wedge. I hit the ball rigt in the middle so it flew so to far. Out of bounds!
So i threw my wedge on my bag. I finished the round on par. But I got a surprise when i got home.

My brand new sunglasses were broken into two pieces and my ipod was broken!
After that I always try to think before i do such a stupid thing again.

Not just to get myself embarrased in front of everyone, but the worst thing is that it cost me a lot!
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Not trying to be an ass at all, but I think I gave up pitching fits at 14, I'm 30 now. I think it's a mental thing as I have friends that still throw clubs, after losing my ass with my 401k a bad shot is a walk in the park.

Take your cost per round, divide your number of swings by that and that's how much your shitty shot cost you. Then go look at your 401K.

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  • 6 years later...

I agree. I am a 2 handicap, and just last Monday, playing in our company league (9 holes after work each week), I shot a 46 !!! ... Are you kidding me? ... I started the round with a quadruple bogey on the very first hole!  No, I wasn't too happy about it, and the round didn't get much better from there, but, I didn't throw any clubs or anything either. When you have played as much golf as I have, you soon realize that there are days you can score a 66, and there are days you will, like it or not, score an 86. That's just the way this game is. Can be frustrating at time, but that is the game of golf for you!

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