Re: Qualified for a tournament. Bad father? Wife guilt trip
Is his wife really being THAT harsh? I mean if the guy plays with you 3-4 times a month, that means he's playing once a week, which really isn't too bad... I think it's kind of normal for couples (bf/gf, husband/wife, dad/mom/kids, etc) to be spending time together. Playing golf once a week isn't like she's riding him for playing once a month... I think it's a decent amount and more than many dads/husbands get to get out there. I think that some of us on this site just have a different view on things due to being so obsessed with the sport. Playing any sport (skiing, soccer, hockey, golf, etc) once a week is a pretty good amount, when it comes to 2-3 times a week, it's normal not too be too thrilled about it when you're the other person. Relationships are about compromises. Why don't some of you try and get your wives/gfs/significant others to play golf with you instead? As a poster above said, once his kid started playing, all of a sudden it's something you do together. I started snowbaording and golfing with my gf and it's an awesome time we can spend together doing something and being outside on the weekends. No?
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Greg 
Im single here so i guess dont understand women telling you what to do and so on. After you're married and have kids is not the time to decide to stop letting your wife tell you what to do and when to do it. This sounds very familiar to a friend i have, he has 3 young kids and the only time he ever gets to play is when he goes with me maybe 3-4 times a month, he cant even go alone. Ive known both of them for a long time but it seems she really resents anything he does, she makes being gone 4 hours sound like being gone 4 days. I live quite some distance from him, i always come and play near him even though i know he would like to play some courses near me. I think sometimes she resents the fact that he has any friends, I almost feel unwelcome at times. We're usually lucky to get to play 9 and then have to rush back. Unless you're playing more than 2 times a week, i dont think thats too much for anyone if you keep it local and arent gone all day. If i were in relationship, i would at the very start tell her that i like to play golf quite a bit and if shes not ok with that then Id find someone else. I would of course make time to spend with her but during the day id like to do my own thing. I know for many its ok until the kids come along, does change things. But you cant expect someone to completely abandon a hobby because of kids or anything else, or resent them for doing something fun. If doing something you like in moderation is not ok by your significant other, then you dont have a very strong relationship. You're not cheating, you're not doing anything immoral or illegal, and as long as its not a money issue you're just having fun enjoying life. If your sig other cant handle that, how would they ever handle any adversity in the relationship.
