ghalfaire - "As to JD and Tiger, they are just fellow human beings trying to make their way through life as best they can the same way we all are. Probably imperfect beings who made a few mistakes along the way, just like the rest of us."
True. I think what you say about the invite including preferred dress is spot on. If the host requests it, you should try to honor that. But if you don't, who am I to judge really.