1: Most players have a 5 wood or something, 3i to 3w is a big gap. And if you can't hit the 3 then it's more like 4/5 iron to 3w gap, over 60 yards. How is that the greenskeeper's fault?
2: If you can't hit your long irons well, or are too short to hit something comfortable, move up. Your 5 iron should be in the 160-170 range I assume? You shouldn't generally play over 6,000 yards (rule of thumb is 5i distance x 36), which puts you in white tee range.
3: Look at the scorecard beforehand; usually if there are a lot of 200+ par 3s, it's likely you're in for a grind and should move up. It's not like the yardages are a surprise.
4: I am one of the few players, apparently, who actually like using all his clubs. Hitting the long irons is a challenge I like to take on, and I love hitting a 200+y shot onto a green. 150y par 3s are 9 irons for me all day and it's boring as hell. And if there's anything 230ish, I know I'm picking up a stroke against everyone else if I reach. No one says you're supposed to make birdie. As long as par is makeable, there's no reason to complain.
5: No one said you had to hit from the same set of tees every hole, if you're playing for fun just hit from the whites on par 3s or whatever. Your handicap calculation might not be accurate, but you won't complain about it any longer. Just submit all the rounds from "normal" courses.
I don't notice any problems with yardages at my local courses, usually they have the intention of par 3s you can hit with a 9i, 7i, and 5i of the typical distance for the tees, and one with a gimmick or that's the same as another. If you don't like the course, don't play there.
1) Yes I said I could carry a hybrid but also explained why I don't. If I play my 3 wood off the turf and take a 3 quarter swing I can fairly consistently shorten my shot to 225 yards in the air. That's a 35 yard gap.
2) If I move up then it's Driver/Wedge almost every par 4. ugh. I play my 5 iron at 175 yards.
3) see point 2.
4) I don't mind hitting my long irons at all. However I also don't like hitting a 3 iron or more on 3 out of the 4 par 4's. Add that yardage to some of the par 4's so they aren't all Driver/Wedge holes.
5) My Saturday group we play from the blue's. That's the agreement. One guy in our group plays his 5 iron about 195 and it's painful for him to play the shorter distance (the shorter distance is also boring to me when the rest of the course is all drivers and wedges).