Originally Posted by jamo
If you've never played with "that guy," you probably are "that guy."
I rarely, if ever, play with "that guy."
Originally Posted by D-Man
The swing I've created is due to having very messed up left shoulder. I would say it's not to far off of a "normal" swing, because I've had people tell me I have a good looking swing. I have to come more inside and keep my swing close to my body and I stay pain free, If I get outside of that and have a more traditional path to the ball, my shoulder feels like it's going to explode.
The situation goes like this. I get paired up with a two or threesome and every now and then one of them is "that guy". It usually starts out halfway/ 2/3rds down the front nine. I have a normal round going a few bogies, a couple of pars, maybe a birdie if I'm lucky. Then I'll totally 'F' up a drive and "that guy" will say something like, "you should play your driver up in your stance more."
Awesome! Thanks for the advice! I've just watched you slice almost every single one of your tee shots, and I've waited for you to make triple or quadruple bogie on every single hole so far and you want to give me advice? - Is what I want to say from the get go. But I never do. I usually just say I'll try that next time.
But when "that guy" insists on giving me advice, usually the third time I blow up and call him out. He's usually the reason for the third shanked shot, because he's already pissed me off with the first two swing tips. You haven't even made one par all day!!! Why do you insist on giving me advice after I hit a few bad shots? I don't even like unsolicited advice from players that are far better than me. I don't give anyone advice that I don't know, unless they ask what I think. I don't know what physical limitations anyone has, and I'm not a PGA instructor. I don't even give my regular playing partners advice unless they are really struggling and it's because I see they are doing something totally different than I'm use to seeing them do.
I highlighted the two parts I think are the most relevant. You explained to us in one paragraph (a paragraph that takes me less than 15 seconds to read out loud). My question is, why seethe (sp?) through a piece of instruction you hate and don't want or need, repeated 3 times, then get pissed off, when you could, rather easily, tell him exactly what you just told us after the first time? If he doesn't get the idea and still repeats it more, then by all means, "blow up."
I mean why are you allowing a guy ruin your day like that? A guy who, mind you, is only trying to brighten your day, no matter how misguided?
I, myself, don't care for unsolicited advice either, but just simply smile and say thanks, and move on. If it's repeated, I'd go with the advice already mentioned above and tell him I'll give it a shot next time on the range.
I don't ever give people advice while playing because 1) I don't really pay attention to strangers swings, and 2) I don't feel qualified. Occasionally, though, if the right opportunity presents itself, I may slip a little. Thursday, for example. Guy I got paired up with was a 25-ish capper type guy who, after hitting a couple of bad shots, started voicing his frustrations out loud. He complained about not understanding why he was alternately hitting it fat then thin then fat, etc, etc. Well, based on that I knew there was a good chance that his biggest problem was not having his weight forward at impact. Since he "asked" I decided it was OK for me to answer, but I still phrased it something like "I used to have a similar problem with fat and thin shots, and for me, it turned out that I didn't have my weight forward enough at impact. The club was bottoming out behind the ball, so if I hit the ground it was a fat shot, and if I missed, I thinned it. I'm not really certain if your issue is the same, but that could definitely be a possibility." And that was the end of it. (Not really advice, just my opinion of what may be one cause of his problem. If he was interested in trying to solve it sometime, great. If not, that's great too.)