You mentioned early on, a couple of months back when you first joined the forum, that you had played for 20 years, but only 2 or 3 rounds a year. That only now, after finishing school were you finally getting into the game. Not trying to knock you, but that's not an experienced, knowledgeable golfer (heck, I've played more rounds this year than you did in those 20).......certainly not one with any kind of competitive experience, and that comes through in your perspective here.
Now, how do you feel about losing when I give you those 15 strokes. Does that bother you? If not, then you're just not competitive at all.....and honestly, that's not the vibe I get.
I've averaged 2 or 3 rounds. Some years 0, some years 25. Past 4 years I haven't played much. This year I'm probably 50 rounds in.
Instead of just dismissing what I'm saying because I'm "not an experienced, knowledgable golfer", address the points I'm making.
I play competitively, against 5 people. Pat, Pat, Mike, Maxx, and Markus. 5 friends that golf about the same level as myself. If they beat me, it bother me...a lot.
If you beat me, it wouldn't bother me...because that isn't a real competition from the beginning, I know I have no shot of winning. I'll try my best, but toss your free strokes in the trash unless we're gambling. If LeBron James gives me 10 points in a 1 on 1 game playing to 11, and I somehow score a point before he rattles off 11, I don't feel like I beat LeBron James.
You wanna play against me and give me 15 strokes just to make it interesting? That's cool. We'll put some money on it because at that point, I'm trying to be better than my normal self...not trying to be better than you. And THAT is the bottom line. Competition in sports, is doing everything in your power, fighting to the last shot to be better than your competitor. With the HI system, winning is not being better than your competitor, it's being better than your normal self. Which is great, and you're competing...but it's absolutely not the same.