I'm not sure if this is what @iacas was getting at or not, but, for me, it is a little different when kids are around. I'm not exactly a "crude" guy or anything, but I still feel like I have to "behave" if there are kids present. It wasn't a big deal when you and Lihu each had one guest, because as Erik said before, you four could just play together. Nobody would be uncomfortable around a kid, and the kids would probably have more fun with a peer present.
More importantly though, the original idea around these outings was to be able to meet a lot of new people in the area who like golf, and when everybody just brings (and then plays with) their family, I think they are missing out on that aspect.
I certainly don't want to un-invite anybody, but maybe let's try and keep this to TST members (or potential members - we definitely are also all about expanding) and then bring the family members in when we need to fill out foursomes if we're short a player here or there?
P.S. Reallllly not trying to offend anybody here, so I hope I didn't, but just trying to remind everybody what we're doing.
P.P.S. In a few years, I'd loooooove to start a TST Socal members father-son tournament too! (My son is 4 currently and doesn't know how to play so I can't start it yet. ;))
I for one am not offened at all and get the whole idea of the outting and would rather have it laid out so a decission can be made.
My son and I can split up, stay togather it is not a big deal, if you dont feel kids should be there then that should also be stated or do we have a group of 4 kids we can put togather?