I am extremely intense when I play sports and I have that extreme desire to win and absolutely hate to lose.
I have played sports my entire life and the intensity and aggression I had on the football field and basketball court does not just go away because I am playing golf. However I do try my absolute hardest to keep my cool no matter what is going on or how bad I am playing, but there is times where I just can not hold my frustration in.
The thing is, when you get angry / frustrated etc. when playing other sports like basketball and/or football you can take it out in the game by playing harder defense, sprinting down the court faster, driving to the lane harder, making a more aggressive block / tackle...there is outlets within the game to release that energy. In golf however, you have to just suck it up and let it simmer inside.
I think I have came a long way from when I first started playing to accepting bad shots, holes, rounds etc. but every now and then as I mentioned I just can not contain it. Ex. I am trying so hard to break 90 and was on pace to do so with 3 holes left to play the other day. Then on the 16th tee, I carded an 8 (on a par 4). The crazy part is as angry as I was in realizing that I just lost my chance to break 90, I actually held it all inside and just tried to walk it off before the next tee. While holding all this anger and frustration inside there was no way I was going to hit a good tee shot on the next hole and I didint, I chunked it and the ball went rolling about 20 yards. Then I lost it and slammed my club against the tire of the golf cart. I know it was stupid and I should not have but I felt like I had to do something....then my playing partner (who I do not know other than this round) told me off! I was in shock. I didnt yell back at him because in a way he was right...I should not have done that but at the same time, how did it bother his life or his round at all. I have played with people who threw MUCH bigger tantrums (breaking clubs etc) on the course than what I did. Although I feel like I was wrong for doing it. I also don't think it was nearly a big enough deal for my playing partner to yell and carry on at me over it.
Please don't reply with "your not good enough to care so much to slam a club etc." - I hate those types of statements. Its how much I care that drives me to practice and play so hard. Anyways, any advice for not blowing up on the course and still being able to regroup and hit your next shot?