Originally Posted by Golfingdad
Bottom line is that there are no rules to this thing. It's laid back and fun. Bring the kids, and you guys play as a group. We will just have to get to know you on the range beforehand or in the grill afterwards.
That's the main point. Y'all can do what you want, but basically, if you want to bring the kids, it's fairest to either always bring the kids and to have that be your set foursome, or if one can't make it, perhaps to leave the kid at home so you can join a full "adult" foursome.
Originally Posted by Lihu
Mix and matching of partners is no problem either. I think it's a great way for the kids to grow a bit and understand the game better from the adults' perspectives. There are some times when his golf team "loops" for the adults, but this is more of a fun thing where he can play as well.
Let me ask you this… If I invited you over for a guy's night playing poker and pool, would you bring Kaili? Would you even ask?
I have a kid. There are clearly times when she's invited, and other times when she's not. Even at the Super Bowl party we attend, the kids are sequestered in a separate room so the adults can be adults (and the kids can be kids!).
A guy invited us to his house after a soccer game a few months ago. We brought some wine, had some wings, etc. and played some ping pong and shot the breeze. And the whole time, it was awkward because his 7th-grade daughter and 15-year-old son were there. Adults couldn't behave like adults. It was awkward and unfair. The "party" ended up lasting only about 90 minutes, and everyone had left by 10pm (on a Friday night). Everyone was polite… but it was awkward, and people talked about it afterwards.
Even now, when my kiddo comes to the game, if some team members go get some wings and some beer afterwards, we just head home. It's not fair to the others to feel put upon to provide a "growing opportunity" for my kid.
Again, if you want to bring your kid, I think you and @hacker101 can basically always play together as a foursome. That doesn't seem like it has much of a point to me, but if you enjoy it, cool. And by all means, spearhead a "dads and kids" event. Could be great!
P.S. This was talked about last time. I didn't think I was mis-remembering that…