My wife is entering her 6th year as a player. I helped her as much as I could, then bought her lessons to help her improve full swing shots of all kind. Here is her journey and a little about her personality:
My wife played HS softball and can bowl well so she has a good bit of athletic capability already. She's competitive to a degree but enjoys the overall golf experience more than not being able to break 100 even now. Her mind-set is, we're outside in a beautiful environment, the weather is great, a young girl brings beer to me when I'm thirsty and this sure beats working. Attitude and perspective = enjoyment of the game.
How we started: Middle of winter, downstairs watching college and NBA basketball on TV. Gave the wife a putter and three balls to begin the process of understanding how hard one needs to swing a putter to get ball to move 25-30' to the other side of the basement on carpet. Added a drinking cup to aim at soon after.
When spring broke, we started going to practice facilities. She learned to chip and putt here. More importantly, she learned how to hit DOWN on the ball to make it fly onto the green and roll out. We chipped and putted a LOT. Next step was a practice tee where she hit 7-irons off the short rubber tee. It wasn't long before they were actually flying and going 50-60 yards. Handed her the 460cc driver with a face the size of a melon. When the first one flew and went 120 yards or so she was hooked on golf!
Her clubs: That first spring, I bought her an Adams complete set. Clubs, bag, putter, everything. When we started playing the short courses, I'd take out clubs that weren't being used. When we started playing full-length courses we took out more. Entering her 3rd year of playing her set included these clubs: Driver (new TM) a #5 hybrid (Cobra) 7-9 irons, PW, SW and a putter. Here game was driver off the tee, #5 hyrbid to short iron range, on the green and finish.
At the end of last season, she got a REAL set of clubs fitted for her. She's playing her best golf so far. Usually between 100-110 every time out and has broken 100 once. Her goal is to break 100 on a consistent basis. Not bad for a woman going into her 6th year of playing.
Hope your girl warms up to the game like mine did. She's a blast to play with and it's pretty much what we do every Sunday we can play in NE Ohio. Oh, and she joined a league this year. It's golf night, tonight.
ps: As others might have mentioned, I keep my mouth shut unless asked. I try to be supportive, encouraging and a good playing partner. Nothing will turn off YOUR woman more than trying to micro-manage her game.