gross or net?

You should definitely tell them the gross score, but feel free to follow it up with the net.

Gross is the correct score, although I did shoot a 66 the other day......net

BTW how many folks on here still do this? http://golf.about.com/cs/handicapping/a/coursehandicap.htm

Also if you are 10 what holes do you take 10 strokes off? http://golf.about.com/cs/handicapping/a/whichholes.htm

We adjust in my league, and then in stroke play you get strokes on the holes with the smallest handicap number. So if you're a 5 and the other guy is a 3 you'll get a stroke on the #1 and #2 handicap holes then play straight-up on the other holes.

I believe in you're example you'd take 1 stroke off holes with handicap #s 1-10.

It's always gross, net scores are only used for tournaments.

As to your first point, why wouldn't they?  Anyone maintaining a real handicap index is presumably doing it for a reason and for that reason to make sense they need to know the course handicap - which is simply a way of translating a "universal" handicap index to a course handicap that adjusts for the difficulty of the course.

As to the second point, the handicap holes really are only relevant in match play.

Say you are a 10 and you are playing against an 18 (in both cases using course handicap, NOT handicap indexes).  You will be giving him 8 shot.  If you were playing stroke (or medal) play then you would just compare final scores and if you were 9 or more less than him you win.  "Taking off" strokes on specific holes really does not matter, since it is the total score that counts.

But if you are playing match play there are 18 holes and you have to give him 8 strokes so it becomes necessary to determine on which holes the strokes should be given.  The scorecard should indicate what handicap number each hole is.  You will give your opponent one stroke on each of the handicap number holes 1-8.  I have heard people say that he should get a shot on 1-18 and you should get a shot on 1-10 (which effectively would mean you were giving him strokes on 11-18) but that is wrong.

Hmmm, as I reread your message, to which I am replying, I see I may be misreading it and you were not asking the questions you were offering the information.  If so sorry.

Same as stroke.

Yep. The PGA Tour is medal play, except for a few match play tourneys. The PGA tournament used to be a match play tourney.

I used to focus on Stableford when I was at a higher handicap, but today it's all about the gross score.