I kinda haven't gotten to that feeling yet. To be honest the idea of "relaxing" has never clicked with me so I doubt it's going to be that. If anything the feeling of the right wrist folding back a bit more may be a feeling, as I tend to get there without a ton of right wrist bend, and feeling that can play a role.
As can the feeling of just taking the hands more "out" from the top, as that will pull the shaft and clubhead more toward "laid off."
It goes both ways. An instructor could set a player down the wrong path and “ruin” the player’s swing to the point that they no longer can compete on a high level, make them more susceptible to injury, etc. In that case, being a stupid monkey ends up working against the player.