There you go - I think that statement really nicely sums up your position. I'l acknowledge your feeling here and understand where you are coming from.
However, just because it "feels" like cheating to you, it's not a justification for changing rules. Everybody has a rule they "feel" is bad, but rules are subjective and someone else might "feel" exactly the opposite. Rules are pretty random - what's 'fair', is just that they are defined (not inferred), and everyone follows the same rules for those rounds that pit us against each other or our own performance.
Best to avoid subjectivity. A discussion is interesting, but only up to the point where we try to convert others with a different view on it. Then it goes from being a discussion, to just repetition.
you two, I believe, nailed it. He's talking about very exclusive clubs with very low membership density. Then you just act like the owner and play whenever and however you wish. It's a bit clueless for anything other than the most excluding of privates. Pretty much wallowing is what 'ordinary' people consider the worst stereotype of golf. Or he's in a typical private and wishes it had fewer members so he can have an elite experience instead of what his club offers....
I don't know who Charlie Rymer is but his quote sounds like something an effete snob (to coin an old, old phrase) would say, someone who has spent his entire life at a country club and never tried to play at a public golf course.A dope.
I realize he's talking about "private golf", but he's still a dope because even at private clubs there are regular foursomes who have played together for years and so for the new member who's not part of a regular group struggling to squeeze in 9 holes after work, what's he supposed to do?