Bad Manners or Just Rude?

[ay33660]

Tell your friend what you are telling us, and advise him that you would appreciate it if you never played with his boss ever again.  The conflict is irrelevant as to who is right and who is wrong, but he rubs you the wrong way, and you are obviously doing things to rub him the wrong way.  Who is right?  Difference of opinion IMHO.  It's obviously bugging you to post it here, so the solution is to never play golf with the man again.

FWIW, I had a similar situation with a co-worker, where he invited a couple of friends and we played 18 together.  A couple of times during the round my co-workers friend didn't like the fact that I knocked his 1 foot gimme back to him on the green, after it took him 8 strokes to get to that point (he was holding up the group at this point, which is why I gave him the "gimme").  He even asked me not to do that and to let him putt out, to which I responded, "ok."  His buddy was a slow golfer IMHO, and didn't understand that once you get to a certain point of strokes on a hole, you pick up to keep up with the group.  I would do the same if I was having a bad hole.

After the round was over we parted ways, and the next time I spoke with my co-worker how I felt about his buddy, and asked that we never play a round of golf again together, for the reasons I mentioned above.  He was fine with it and we haven't played since.  Some people are just not meant to be on the golf course in the same group at the same time.  That's life.

I think that this is basically the point most of us are trying to make.

The OP has stated TWO issues he had 1) the boss did not give him a gimme while the boss gave longer gimmies for his friend and himself and the boss putted out of turn; 2) the boss made a statement (perhaps a joke) about the OP teeing it up in front of the blocks to the group after the round. Then the OP went on to expand that the boss in his view is a bully on and off the golf course.

But the OP has not given other examples of how the boss has bullied him except for the two occurrences stated above and except for golf, the only other connection with the boss is thru his friend.

These two occurrences has enraged the OP so much that the OP has branded the boss a bully that has to be taught a lesson and that because some of us don't see this we have to (as eloquently stated by the OP) .....  " you guys grow a fu--ing pair and stand up for what's right".

As has been stated before don't golf with your friend's boss. In fact if you come across others that you do not like during a round of golf don't golf with them in the future also.

[1badbadger]

Great to hear your response Hook840.

I still don't know why "AHB knows that giving putts to one but not all the players will throw most off their game and counts on it to give him an advantage." If you guys were playing a match then I could understand that it would throw someone off their game but I don't get the sense that you guys were playing a match. If I was playing in the three-sum and I only knew one of the two other guys and they gave each other their putts it wouldn't bother me one bit.

I get where the OP is coming from...it's not because they were in a match or there was a bet involved, and I really don't think it had anything to do with the rules either. It was because the guy was being rude and inconsiderate.  People talk about how it wouldn't bother them or he shouldn't worry about what others in his group are doing, but imagine someone who is new to your group walking all over your line on the greens, not because he isn't aware of it...he knows that's not proper etiquette, he just doesn't care.  The boss is apparently a decent player who has been around the game long enough to know you don't putt at the same time as another player and other etiquette basics.  Even though the boss knows his friend, the boss was the one who was invited to join the group...he was the "outsider" and should have shown some respect. I don't know if I'd call it bullying, but I would call it a sort of intimidation.

[Abu3baid]

I get where the OP is coming from...it's not because they were in a match or there was a bet involved, and I really don't think it had anything to do with the rules either. It was because the guy was being rude and inconsiderate.  People talk about how it wouldn't bother them or he shouldn't worry about what others in his group are doing, but imagine someone who is new to your group walking all over your line on the greens, not because he isn't aware of it...he knows that's not proper etiquette, he just doesn't care.  The boss is apparently a decent player who has been around the game long enough to know you don't putt at the same time as another player and other etiquette basics.  Even though the boss knows his friend, the boss was the one who was invited to join the group...he was the "outsider" and should have shown some respect. I don't know if I'd call it bullying, but I would call it a sort of intimidation.

I don't remember reading about stepping on his line or putting at the same time?

[trickyputt]

One round of golf is a great job interview opportunity for any employer. Do you think handling things as they were was a positive?

[1badbadger]

I don't remember reading about stepping on his line or putting at the same time?

Yeah, one of the incidences involved the boss putting out of turn and at the same time as the OP.  Stepping on the line was just an example I was using on how other player's conduct isn't always easy to ignore or could be irritating, but you're correct, it wasn't part of the original story.