Great thread, my son just entered middle school this year. I remember how tough it was for me so I am giving him kudos and praise as to how well he has made the transition. My wife is struggling a bit as he is transitioning from boy to young man including an interest in girls and more of an interest in learning to be a man. We (wife and I) struggle with not riding his butt for little things.
He is my main golf partner, he does chores around the house to earn his green fees. Over the summer he ran a lawn business and earned good money.
I have another son 9 that has no interest in golf at this time, I spend time with him doing what he enjoys which includes video games, army men, watching Star Wars, soccer and basketball. And trips to Sonic for lunch, his favorite place.
It is important to me that I spend quality time with both doing what they/we enjoy. I remind myself how I used to think that my parents did not understand or know s**t to keep it all in prospective.