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Southern by Choice

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  1. As a woman who came to golf late in life, I tried to speed up the learning curve by taking lessons—lots of them. I’ve probably taken a lesson or attended a workshop by eight different local pros. My husband corrected me; some girlfriends advised me. And then there is all the UNSOLICITED advice that men feel qualified to give to any female golfer! Regardless of the source, I had WAY too many thoughts in my head every time I stood over the ball. If there were four things I should be thinking about, I’d remember two—and it was never the same two! My club's new PGA pro TIM ASHLEY is from Arkansas, and he’s the best teacher I’ve ever had. Why? Before we started, I asked him to please watch four or five swings before he made any comments, since I don’t always do the same things twice in a row! And then I asked that he choose no more than TWO things I needed to correct, since I was unlikely to process/remember more than that. First up? I was standing too far from the ball. He showed me a simple way to get to the proper stance, regardless of the club. That was it. Immediate results! I worked on that for a couple weeks, then came back for Lesson #2, and tackled one or two issues, since I’d already "grooved" proper stance/ball distance and now had room in my cluttered brain to learn something new. I've dropped SEVEN strokes from my HI over five months, one step at a time. Not all lessons provided new information, of course, but the way it was presented resonated, and I changed things methodically, a bit at a time. I still forget something or slip into an old habit, but the catch-phrase or "feel" memory brings it back. SO HAPPY AND EXCITED TO BE PLAYING BETTER AND IMPROVING MY GAME!
  2. I read this quote aloud to my husband. He said, "Sounds like a nice guy. (Did I spell everything correctly?" Forty-four years, and he still makes me laugh! Not exactly a golf post, I know, but it was on my mind...
  3. My husband bought me a Jamie Sadock shirt for Valentine's Day. I thoroughly enjoyed it until I saw what those suckers cost! It hurts my frugal soul to pay that much for a golf shirt. Do you know how many golf balls you could buy for $89??!?
  4. I love it! I have a similar pair and they’re one of my faves. (I am of the female persuasion, though; does that make a difference?) 😉
  5. I just wanted to squawk a little bit! Digging into the details of the WHS is a bit like looking at legislation that has passed: sometimes it’s surprising what’s in there! i know of the exceptions to the rules, and it’s good that they exist for people who have real health issues or temporary setbacks, like the one you mention. (I’m a member of my club's Handicap Committee, and I’m glad we haven’t had a member who needed these exemptions—yet.) Thanks for your response. It’s nice to chat about a game I love so much with someone with your knowledge and experience.
  6. Fair question, for sure. I just looked it up, and even I'M impressed! I shot eight scores in the 90's within a one-month period—after not having broken 100 for nearly a year. Now I’m doing what everyone else has to do: scramble to actually play to the new lower handicap! Thank you for the kind words of encouragement. I still think it’s strange that the system "believes" you while your scores drop (ESR), but doesn’t "believe" you when the scores go up (Soft Cap and Hard Cap). Does that make sense?
  7. There must be a lot of sand baggers out there that the WHS was trying to "catch," but I’m a struggling golfer who has been caught in a system that only seems to hurt me. My HI was up to 38 early this year. I took a series of lessons and had a few very good rounds. BOOM! Exceptional, Score Reduction applied to not just THESE rounds, but to all of the previous revision scores. In my case, an ESR of -3. My index dropped like a rock, down to 24. I was excited, but that didn’t really represent my ability... I continued to play and my scores bumped up and down as I tried to find my new normal. As scores went up, the SOFT CAP was applied, reducing my index's upward movement by 50%. And the HARD CAP is also in place, so if I get in the doldrums again, my handicap index can never go higher than +5 from my previous 12-month low! My good friend has been on a similar journey of rapid improvement followed by inconsistent scores. We are playing in a tournament together on Monday, and neither of us believes our current HI is realistically representative of our expected ability. Again I ask—are there that many cheaters out there, that so many restrictions were built into the WHS?
  8. Flying Ace: Our club will very occasionally turn a blind eye to fivesomes when things are VERY slow. I can’t image you following a group that size as a single unless you are often invited to play through. Do you specifically ask to play alone when you book? I’m perfectly happy to be paired up with someone else when I book a solo tee time; I just don’t want to go to the trouble to find playing partners myself!
  9. I’ve posted before about playing alone, and I, too enjoy it. I’m a high-handicapper, but I play quickly; five-hour rounds kill me, too! Members of my women's league (mostly indexes of low-20s to mid-30s) pride ourselves on being ready to play, walking quickly to the ball, searching for a minute—not 3—for lost balls, etc. "If it’s not immediately visible, it’s probably not playable. Take the penalty and move on!" So give the higher-handicappers a chance as playing partners: you might be pleasantly surprised! BTW, I can’t imagine that you’ve NEVER been asked to join another group. When I play with my husband or another couple of friends, we ALWAYS invite the singles to join us. Of course, some prefer to play alone, and that’s okay, too.
  10. Excellent steak house analogy, mcanadiens! Sometimes it’s not just about the "steak"—or the golf—but about the entire experience. I admit to being fascinated by how long this discussion has gone on with a group of guys...about what is basically a fashion issue! (I know, I know—that wasn’t the initial point of the thread, but that’s where it’s gone.) Very evolved. 😉
  11. "Besides, you should consider "golf clothes" a uniform. The same uniform you would wear in any other sport." I hadn’t thought about it this way, but it makes a lot of sense: dressing appropriately for golf IS like a uniform. No one would tell the coach of the football or baseball team that they didn’t want to wear the uniform. The only difference that comes immediately to mind is that those are team sports... And BTW, women golfers follow clothing standards, just as the men do.
  12. There's RUDE and then there's IGNORANT, and skill level has little to do with it. I played in a foursome where one of the women kept standing right behind the cup when someone else was putting. She kept being waved aside, and then she’d roll her eyes at me as if to say, "What's up with HER??" I finally took her aside and explained what she should be doing and where she should be standing. For whatever reason, she’d never known that part of golf etiquette! I'm a high-handicapper, but I chair our club's Handicap Committee, so I know rules and I know etiquette—and I can keep pace on the course with even strong players. So skill level is not really the issue...
  13. You sound like a true gentleman! Your playing partners had the opportunity to respond to your offer by saying, "Thanks, but I’m trying to work things out on my own" or "No, thanks. I really do know what I’m doing, just can’t seem to execute." Either way, there's no ill will.
  14. This looks to be a very old thread, but I found it interesting. As a (lousy) woman golfer who sometimes goes out to play by myself, I must have a sign on my back that says, "PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO"! Very few women golfers—even good ones—give unsolicited advice to anyone, but it seems to be a knee-jerk reaction for the men. For me, it’s not whether you play well enough to give me advice; you probably do. Rather, I’ve been taking lessons and already have two or three swing thoughts in my head already. Please don’t add to the cacophony in there! My own husband can’t help himself, but at least his motives are pure: he WANTS me to play well and get joy from the game. So, please—no advice, no phony praise, let’s just enjoy the day and the course...and be thankful we are playing golf!
  15. I’ve always said that I am proof-positive you don't need to play well to have fun at golf. HOWEVER, as a newer golfer, I thought I’d finally begun to conquer the game last year, when I began to break 100 fairly regularly. My handicap dropped to the mid-20's—the average for U.S. women golfers. I fully expected my game to continue to improve, and then the exact opposite happened: my game went to hell and continues to WORSEN. Handicap Index is back over 30 and trending ever-higher. Golf is much more fun when I play well (by my own standards). Now there’s a shock! 😏
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