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  1. Flying Ace: Our club will very occasionally turn a blind eye to fivesomes when things are VERY slow. I can’t image you following a group that size as a single unless you are often invited to play through. Do you specifically ask to play alone when you book? I’m perfectly happy to be paired up with someone else when I book a solo tee time; I just don’t want to go to the trouble to find playing partners myself!
  2. I’ve posted before about playing alone, and I, too enjoy it. I’m a high-handicapper, but I play quickly; five-hour rounds kill me, too! Members of my women's league (mostly indexes of low-20s to mid-30s) pride ourselves on being ready to play, walking quickly to the ball, searching for a minute—not 3—for lost balls, etc. "If it’s not immediately visible, it’s probably not playable. Take the penalty and move on!" So give the higher-handicappers a chance as playing partners: you might be pleasantly surprised! BTW, I can’t imagine that you’ve NEVER been asked to join another group. When I play with my husband or another couple of friends, we ALWAYS invite the singles to join us. Of course, some prefer to play alone, and that’s okay, too.
  3. Excellent steak house analogy, mcanadiens! Sometimes it’s not just about the "steak"—or the golf—but about the entire experience. I admit to being fascinated by how long this discussion has gone on with a group of guys...about what is basically a fashion issue! (I know, I know—that wasn’t the initial point of the thread, but that’s where it’s gone.) Very evolved. 😉
  4. "Besides, you should consider "golf clothes" a uniform. The same uniform you would wear in any other sport." I hadn’t thought about it this way, but it makes a lot of sense: dressing appropriately for golf IS like a uniform. No one would tell the coach of the football or baseball team that they didn’t want to wear the uniform. The only difference that comes immediately to mind is that those are team sports... And BTW, women golfers follow clothing standards, just as the men do.
  5. There's RUDE and then there's IGNORANT, and skill level has little to do with it. I played in a foursome where one of the women kept standing right behind the cup when someone else was putting. She kept being waved aside, and then she’d roll her eyes at me as if to say, "What's up with HER??" I finally took her aside and explained what she should be doing and where she should be standing. For whatever reason, she’d never known that part of golf etiquette! I'm a high-handicapper, but I chair our club's Handicap Committee, so I know rules and I know etiquette—and I can keep pace on the course with even strong players. So skill level is not really the issue...
  6. You sound like a true gentleman! Your playing partners had the opportunity to respond to your offer by saying, "Thanks, but I’m trying to work things out on my own" or "No, thanks. I really do know what I’m doing, just can’t seem to execute." Either way, there's no ill will.
  7. This looks to be a very old thread, but I found it interesting. As a (lousy) woman golfer who sometimes goes out to play by myself, I must have a sign on my back that says, "PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO"! Very few women golfers—even good ones—give unsolicited advice to anyone, but it seems to be a knee-jerk reaction for the men. For me, it’s not whether you play well enough to give me advice; you probably do. Rather, I’ve been taking lessons and already have two or three swing thoughts in my head already. Please don’t add to the cacophony in there! My own husband can’t help himself, but at least his motives are pure: he WANTS me to play well and get joy from the game. So, please—no advice, no phony praise, let’s just enjoy the day and the course...and be thankful we are playing golf!
  8. I’ve always said that I am proof-positive you don't need to play well to have fun at golf. HOWEVER, as a newer golfer, I thought I’d finally begun to conquer the game last year, when I began to break 100 fairly regularly. My handicap dropped to the mid-20's—the average for U.S. women golfers. I fully expected my game to continue to improve, and then the exact opposite happened: my game went to hell and continues to WORSEN. Handicap Index is back over 30 and trending ever-higher. Golf is much more fun when I play well (by my own standards). Now there’s a shock! 😏
  9. I’m not a very stuffy person, but I’ve observed a general decline in behavior and deportment (now there’s a throwback word!) when clothing standards are thrown out the window. People naturally behave better in dresses and coat and tie than they do in shorts or jeans and flip flops. From that standpoint, a dress code IS "better for the game."
  10. Come to the Lowcountry of South Carolina. You might even be able to snap a pic of the elusive lone female golfer in her natural habitat! 😉
  11. I can understand your hesitancy to play with others, but it will actually be good for your game. If the GUYS can avoid offering unsolicited tips 😉, you can learn course management, club selection, and golf etiquette...just by observing. I’m NOT a good player, but as long as I can keep up, I’ve always felt welcomed into other groups. Heck, I can often complete my 6 strokes in less time than some people score their 4's!
  12. I was so surprised by this thread since I occasionally play by myself and enjoy it; helps my game, too, since I’m concentrating instead of socializing. I told my husband that the men on this forum found it VERY unusual for a woman to be playing alone. I said, "But I play alone!" And he said, "Yes, and you’re very unusual!" Not that that’s a bad thing...😉
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