To the OP: I have very similar issues with my golf game, as well as the same handicap. I too feel like I am never holding the club correctly, and it seems every time i put a club in my hand, it is in a different manner. I try the technique mentioned in the video posted by dennyjones from the Annika academy by lifting all 4 fingers, except index and "6-th finger". What I find is, in order to keep the grip from sliding up my palm and losing control, is having to rotate my left wrist to a more parallel position to the ground, versus a nice vertical position. Almost like I am covering the grip with the palm of my hand. After placing my other hand on the club, and going to address, this translate to a very bowed lead wrist, or strong grip. I'm lost as to what I doing wrong. I currently have all my clubs fitted with the Golf Pride Align MCC +4 Mid Size grip, as I have larger hands with longer fingers. However, this doesn't seem to be helping with keeping the club resting under the pad on my palms.