Thanks all for the info. It was very helpful, I used some of the pro/con responses in my article. I've found 15 membership courses in the Phoenix area that offer limited tee times to the public. I've tried two so far and will let you in on them, please leave a tee time for me! Sun City Golf Club and Palmbrook Golf Club. Both are nice, Palmbrook is REALLY nice. Range balls are included, the prices are right. Look them up on Golf Now, Phoenix NW area.
So far, the private club courses are lacking in drinks carts, water fountains, and bathrooms. Other than that, they are a real pleasure to visit. For the ladies, they seem more woman-friendly (aside from the lack of facilities on the course). Red tees are well positioned rather than an afterthought. Palmbrook has ball washers at the ladies tees as well as the whites.
And although I'm a public player I fix divots, don't get drunk and crash my cart, and don't hit into other groups or tear up the grass (see 3 wiggle comment above), although I do sometimes see those issues on the muni courses too.