Thanks for the replies. Its good to know I'm not alone.
As for the tech specs, I, like many others here am probably ashamed to admit even to myself how many drivers I own (have owned) in the last season... I have tinkered with flex, torque, loft and even length.
What I have found is tempo and balance win over all.
Accuratly driving 250-270
Bomb and gouge 270-290
Over the last half of the season I did some experimenting with balls, comparing different brands and compressions, It certainly made a difference and I think I have reined in most of the tech specs for my particular swing.
Aside from all that mumbo jumbo its different when there is OB left and water right and an elevated tee box... It still takes some Moxie to execute.
I too have found that with no thoughts of distance just good tempo and balance I have achieved some of my best drives. (this is usually when I think about giving it a little extra)
As for my physical attributes, I am 6'4" and just under 200lbs. Swing with a driver is mid 90's. I can swing alot harder, and used too... My longest drive is 364 yards down wind flat hole, Over swung a R flex callaway war bird. (that should date that drive sufficiently...) Also at that time of regularly driving withing a wedge of most any par 4 I had never broke 90.
The malady I was referring to is the "never being happy with what you've got" mentality.
Thanks for the posts, I like the replies about dealing with it, knowing its common but somewhat unattainable.
Chief Boom hit the nail on the head for the most part. Thanks to all for letting me know I am not alone!