The experiences noted here are different from my personal experience - I'm wondering if it's gender-physical thing? (I've only been golfing for over six years now, FYI.)
When I first started golfing, I used a very light-weight Ping driver that my husband had (an extra one, of course). I really liked that driver and quite honestly, it was one of the few clubs that I could hit consistently. Eventually (like the next golf season), I got my own "ladies" driver (Callaway high trajectory loft) and to this day, the driver is one of my favorite clubs in the bag. (Now granted, I don't hit the ball as far you guys, but I'm long enough off the tee and usually somewhere in the fairway
.)
The 3W, on the other hand - HATED IT!!! I finally sold the darn thing - after coming to the realization that I couldn't hit it AT ALL (let alone consistently). I was told by one instructor that my swing speed would never be fast enough to hit the 3W well. Before I sold it, I would pull out my 5W, thinking, ok, I'd rather have a good 5W shot than a crappy 3w shot. I don't think I really lost that much distance. (Funny thing is, now that I don't have a 3W, my 5W has become the "new" 3W - find I can't hit that very consistenly in the fairway, short rough. So now, I just use my 9W in the fairway and only use the 5W off the tee on the long-ish par 3's).
Cindy