Golf or Spouse/Significant Other?

[Shindig]

I show girls the door the second I get an ultimatum. I don't care what the ultimatum is, or even if it is something I would have done anyway. One girl got the door when she demanded that I spend less time with a particular friend. Another got the door when she told me to get her a ring by Christmas.

So, if I had to choose - golf, absolutely.

[Razorhog]

A good woman would never do that, but in that hypothetical situation, I'd take her in a heartbeat.

[Fourputt]

If your wife/husband/girlfriend/significant other said you had to choose forever - golf or them - which would you choose?

Yep, sounds like a stupid question. I made a commitment to my wife for life. When we got married, I went from playing anywhere from 36 to 72 holes per weekend to playing almost nothing except Men's Club tournaments, maybe 15 rounds a year for nearly 14 years. Not her idea, but my choice. Now I'm retired and more weekday opportunities have opened up, but most weekends still belong to her. Not sure what else I can say.

PS - I feel sorry for the spouses of anyone who can't make this decision easily... why did you get married in the first place?

[MonkeyClaw]

Hmmm.. Seems like kind of a silly question. My wife supports me in everything I do, and I support her too. She does a lot more supporting than I do.

Besides, if she made me quit golf she'd have to play alone since we play together most of the time!

[Golfgal]

Why would you ever marry anyone who didn't love golf as much as you do?

It was on my list when choosing a mate - he better love golf and playing golf with me or he's outta here!

Not that he can't play with the boys...I'm happy he has friends to play with. I play with my own friends as well.

But when we plan our holidays together or weekend getaways from the kids, there's always a lot of golf in the itinerary.

If you married someone before you became addicted to this game, then find a way to "encourage" them to share your passion. I have a ton of advice on that! I hated golf until I was in my 40's. Now I can't get enough. So it's never too late guys.

Golfgal

[Blades4me]

If your wife/husband/girlfriend/significant other said you had to choose forever - golf or them - which would you choose?

LOL--being a dyed in the wool bachalor, this has never been a problem. Although I first ran into this connumdrum when I was a ski ho, then a wind surfing ho, then a fly fishn ho and now a golf ho--yup, I've been doin a lot of ho'n--anyway having been issued that ultimatm several times in the past my comment was, "bummer, see ya". Ultimatms don't work with me.

[Fourputt]

Why would you ever marry anyone who didn't love golf as much as you do?

My wife rarely plays, but that doesn't mean that we have nothing in common. We met when we were both teaching scuba classes in a local dive shop, so for us vacations are usually diving oriented. However she knew that my primary form of recreation when the weather allows is golf, and since her father is also a golfer, she understands the affliction. I think it's healthy for both spouses to have things they often do together and things that they usually do separately, but neither one should dominate the relationship.

[Big_M]

If any woman demanded that I choose between something I love and her, I would definetly have to show her the door.

This is not to say that golf is more important than your spouse/significant other, HOWEVER, in a true and proper relationship, a partner would NEVER make such an ultimatum. Were it to happen, that is a sure sign that the choice of partner was not right and time to reevaluate the relationship.

exactly my thoughts...

My wife, of course.

ditto here... she thought this question was stupid as she said she could never ask me to give up something I love so much.

Besides, if she made me quit golf she'd have to play alone since we play together most of the time!

same boat

Why would you ever marry anyone who didn't love golf as much as you do?

that's just sick... someone who likes golf as much as me has a serious problem and we don't need two of those in our marriage. She likes golf, but not quite to the extent I do and it works out just fine. I think a lot of guys on here would be hard pressed to find a woman who likes golf as much as them. I think it IS a GOOD thing when spouses share some hobbies and DON"T share others... it gives us time to ourselves, etc.

I hunt... she doesn't she does crafty, sewing, girly shit... I don't I play hockey... she doesn't she does aerobics... I don't together we... play golf shoot guns and do other date/couple like things

[PEZGolf]

If your wife/husband/girlfriend/significant other said you had to choose forever - golf or them - which would you choose?

I think that your poll is starting to be representative of the golfing population at large (men, at least)---54% prefer their wife or significant other. Most of the posts, including mine, make it clear however, that it does not have to be an "either or" choice. While dating, if you drop a girl who does not understand your love of golf, you end up with a mate who is understanding and you have the best of both worlds---her and golf!!

[Golfgal]

My wife rarely plays, but that doesn't mean that we have nothing in common. We met when we were both teaching scuba classes in a local dive shop, so for us vacations are usually diving oriented. However she knew that my primary form of recreation when the weather allows is golf, and since her father is also a golfer, she understands the affliction. I think it's healthy for both spouses to have things they often do together and things that they usually do separately, but neither one should dominate the relationship.

Hi Fourputt. I didn't mean to imply that golf was the only activity couples can share. Diving is a great thing to do together. And I absolutely agree that couples need to do things apart as well.

But many couples I know don't do anything together outside of raising their kids. I think that's a shame. I couldn't be happy in that kind of relationship.