HeadHunter,
Wait til you get married!!! Owwwww!!!! But seriously, when you do and if you have kid(s), Golf may be your only "social" men's outing. Pretty much is for me, and that's okay, but you really want to enjoy yourself and take those oppportunities when you can - once a week, twice a month, whatever.
This whole goat rodeo the OP has gotten himself into is a real pickle....I wouldn't want to be in it. He's probably not going to be happy either way....ticked if he has to bail on his partner and the thrill of competing.....or peeved that the wive drew her line in the sand about Family vs. Golf.
Good luck, Brother!