My only bit of advice is to not get new clubs, and do not get ladies clubs. I'm much younger than you and I am sure MUCH weaker than you and I swing regular flex mens shafts. I would not purchase graphite shafts for irons unless you're very old and unable to swing steel shafts. I have noticed almost no difference in my father's 20 year old Ping irons and my 3 month old Cobra Irons, which is why I say do not get new clubs unless you begin playing a lot and feel that they will be beneficial to your game. Otherwise, there is not much of a difference in the irons, but new woods would be something to consider.