Hey rocker - I've been down that same road. Being age 62, I don't have the flexability to get the shaft parallel to the ground at the top anymore. And that's OK - I just have to accept I cannot hit the same distances I once could. But my mind wants me to get parallel by letting my wrists break down at the top. Very uncontrolled feeling, and shots that lacked distance or were fat. So, a tip I saw that's really helped me with my new shorter backswing is to have my thumbs pointing up at the 'top'. Much better feeling and crisper shots.