I don't mind ladies tees, I play a reasonably short course and there are a number of holes where i imagine a large proportion of the ladies would struggle to reach the fairway even from men's tees. Even multiple sets of tees for men are fine, whats the point in having a championship course with tees 100 yards further forward then they should be, or likewise being forced to play 100 yards back from what you're capable of. But surely if you are playing with a specific group of people or in a competition, you all play off the same tees? You can't have a match or competition playing what is a essentially a different course, is the handicap system not designed to limit the effect of not being as long off the tee? I understand @disco111is saying he struggles to play to 5 currently but will his handicap not reflect that change over time and then he should be in a position to compete with his playing partners again.