girlfriend is going to uni

[Tone-NY]

My wife was 2 hours away. I drove to see her 3 or 4 times a week. It was a headache but worth it. Not to sound like Dr. Phil but considering your age I wouldn't worry too much about it. Put in the effort but if it isn't working out it isn't working out. There are plenty of fish in the sea if you know what I mean. You'll be ok.

That one kind of answered it all!

[pxc]

No, he's right. You've been wringing your hands over this for what a month now? Just end it already, you'll be happier in another month than you would be if you kept punishing yourself. If you don't trust her then the battle is already lost. You keep saying things like "I can't do it" like you have no control over whether you are or aren't in this relationship.

[zeg]

You're making this a lot harder on yourself than you should. Decide what you want and go with it. If you're not comfortable being in the relationship, it's ridiculous to stick with it because she begs for it. That's just not going to end well. It's great to care for others, but you are responsible for taking care of yourself, just like she's responsible for taking care of herself. You're under no obligation to stick with her because SHE wants it. It's YOUR life you're leading.

[flanagan]

i do like her, i dont like that i dont trust her, and i want her to have fun in college i told her that but i dont want to be with her and worry about her all the time. she keeps telling me she wants to be with me and i just cant do it.

1. You don't trust her; 2. You like her (you don't love her); 3. You don't trust her.

No trust means there's a good reason for not trusting her which means you should not be together and it's on her, or it means you have no good reason for not trusting her which means you should not be together and it's on you. Neither Phil nor Oprah could save a relationship where there is no love and no trust. Move on, you'll be happier in the long run, and that's the best advice you will ever get from a total stranger.

[Ty Haegs]

without a picture of said girlfriend its hard to tell, lol j/j but seriously it's close to impossible to do the whole "long distance" thing, especially when she is attending a university and is only 18.... believe me I speak from experience. ;) best of luck.