Need Advise

[marto97]

I need some help guys. Our foursome has one fellow (I'll call him Dan)that likes to stand behind you when your putting to get a read on the line. He only does this when your on the same line as him.

How do I politely tell Dan to stop this. If he is standing still it really doesn't bother me, but it's bugging the shit out of another guy (I'll call him Bob) in our foursome, and Bob has told Dan several times not to do it. So now Dan is doing it to me and Bob says I should tell him to stop!

These guys are all 20 years my senior, we are a very competitive bunch and I like them a lot. I don't want to piss anyone off. What do you think?

[SNIP3R]

If he makes you uncomfortable there is nothing wrong with expressing
your discomfort about the situation. But I am a pretty straight forward guy.

The fact that this person is 20 years your Senior might make it seem awkward,
but speaking up about it will possibly do three things. 1) Piss him off
2) Physically and mentally getting him off your back. 3) Lower your score

Two out of those three result in positives for you and your golf game, so my vote is for speaking up.

[Q.Q.Quillume]

  marto97 said:

I need some help guys. Our foursome has one fellow (I'll call him Dan)that likes to stand behind you when your putting to get a read on the line. He only does this when your on the same line as him.

If Dan doesn't bother you, then let him stand there. Why should you let Bob intimidate you into doing something you don't want to do? And why in the world does it bother Bob what Dan does while you're putting? If it bothers Bob, let Bob take care of it.

[iacas]

  Q.Q.Quillume said:

If Dan doesn't bother you, then let him stand there. Why should you let Bob intimidate you into doing something you don't want to do? And why in the world does it bother Bob what Dan does while you're putting? If it bothers Bob, let Bob take care of it.

Ditto, especially since he's allowed to stand there.

(To the original poster:) It sounds like your friend's problem, not yours. Perhaps your friend should just start standing behind the fellow himself if he's too chicken to actually say something about it.

[Ogg]

You can tell him that it is against the rules if he is your partner, and it is. It is also just a breach of ettiquette.

RULE 14-2 Assistance
In making a stroke,a player must not:
(a) Accept physical assistance or protection from the elements; or(b) Allow his caddie, his partner or his partner’s caddie to position himself on or close to an extension of the line of play or the line of putt behind the ball. Penalty for Breach of Rule 14-1 or -2:
Match play — Loss of hole; Stroke play — Two strokes.

[marto97]

Thanks for all the free advise guys. I talked to him today and all is well. He was not upset about it at all and why should he have been. It was a good day I broke 80 for the first time in a month and a half.