Etiquette disagreement with my wife

[Fourputt]

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Originally Posted by Lihu

If you both play at the same rate, both of you could have gotten all 18 holes in. If you went together it would have taken longer. Don't feel bad because he probably finished all 18 too.

I wouldn't feel guilty. If I were to ask to join another group and they declined, I would realize it was for a good reason or they were a jerk. Fine either way.

If I'm playing alone and I catch up with a short-handed group on a full course and they invite me to play through, I'll usually just ask if they mind if I join them.  If they decline, then I'll usually decline to pass them.  I'd rather wait behind a smaller group than behind a full foursome, because they will usually clear the green faster.  That way I have less time waiting around while they putt out.  For me, it's easier on my psyche to wait on the tee than it is to wait in the fairway.

And besides, that way I can stand there behind them and stare them down all the way around the course to make them regret not inviting me to join them.

[WUTiger]

Have you talked to your wife about this? Bring it up in the clubhouse after a round, especially if other women are at the table.

This is about "sharing the culture." You may appear confrontational if you suddenly bring it up on course.

[AmazingWhacker]

My wife is the extrovert and I'm the introvert so I'm less comfortable than she is pairing up with strangers - but I definitely invite the other twosome to join up every time.  It's the just the sensible thing to do and, even though I'm usually uncomfortable at first, it's always a good time.  Put it this way . .it's a LOT more comfortable than knowing people are waiting on me for each shot.  Even though it's not my fault they're waiting, I'd rather have a comfortable pace of play vs the group behind waiting on us while we wait on the group ahead.

[awright87]

When I started playing I was nervous about playing with other people. I play a lot by myself but now enjoy it when I have the oppurtunity to ask someone if they'd like to play together, or be asked to play with others. I put it out there that I'm not very good so take it or leave it & every time so far I've had a good time even making some new golf buddies. I've learned that there's pretty good odds that they probably aren't any better than me. There's way more bad golfers than good ones