Excuses Given to You When Suggesting Pairing Up

[Jeremie Boop]

19 hours ago, Shorty said:

One thing I have learnt from decades playing golf is that other people really don't care about your game. The only reason they would object to playing with another is if that person is unbearably slow. As for someone not wanting to play with you because you "smoke" drives or "drain" putts  - or, conversely want to play with you because you do is completely bogus. As a golfer, you should be willing to play with anyone. If you a re a single, you have no standing on the golf course if you are jammed between groups with others ahead, so if you insist on playing by yourself, choose a quiet time or expect to join another group. Geez, you might even make a friend or two!

You still go by that archaic idea huh? As far as expecting to join another group or choosing "a quiet time" if I'm a single, that's not really for you to decide. I play as a single a lot. Sometimes I'll join up with others, sometimes I don't. It depends entirely on whether I care to have company at the time. I do agree, however, that I most people couldn't care less how good or bad you are. As long as you keep pace that's all that matters.

[Lihu]

19 hours ago, Shorty said:

One thing I have learnt from decades playing golf is that other people really don't care about your game. The only reason they would object to playing with another is if that person is unbearably slow. As for someone not wanting to play with you because you "smoke" drives or "drain" putts  - or, conversely want to play with you because you do is completely bogus. As a golfer, you should be willing to play with anyone. If you a re a single, you have no standing on the golf course if you are jammed between groups with others ahead, so if you insist on playing by yourself, choose a quiet time or expect to join another group. Geez, you might even make a friend or two!

This is quite true. If given the choice, I would prefer playing with other people. Sometimes, it's nice to just sit back and relax between shots.

Most of my golfing friends are from random pairings. Rarely, is it someone from the driving range or forum who wants to meet up on an actual course.

You get to see their playing from the onset. Half play better than me half play worse, but if I meet them on the course the chances are higher to want to play again. . .

[ydube]

I usually warn people about how bad a player I actually am, but I have no problems if they want to pair up.  I just like to set the expectation.  I also tell them they can play ahead if I'm holding them back.

[graham57]

Up until recently, I felt uncomfortable when asked to join another group, as I felt I may hold them back. Now I realise that I'm a pretty average golfer and that - as LIHU said - half the people play better than me, the other half doesn't. And I can honestly say that 90% of my experiences playing with strangers have been positive.

[wasilvers]

One busy day, some 2 guys and a girl were 'waiting their turn' - so to kill time they were 'wheeling' in the carts.  They almost flipped one on the curb and the starter went and chewed them out.  The starter saw them and asked if I wanted to join them or not - at least gave me the option.  I said I'd ask them...

We were all on waiting on first, and I asked about joining.  One guy said, "We are going to drink a lot of alcohol and do some drugs.  If you don't mind that, jump in our cart.  If you mind, you should probably just play through".

Walking, I finished hole 3 and was on to 4 as they were just leaving the green on hole #1.  

[Dave325]

19 hours ago, saevel25 said:

 

My post was pretty clear in saying I don't face many full golf courses. When my dad and I layers TPC Sawgrass we got paired up. If we are in Ohio, 99% of the time we are not forced to pair up. 

Still I don't make excuses for not wanting to pair up. 

Yes, I am in Ohio too (Cincinnati area) and play at a rural course during the week.... I like to get out at the crack of dawn for the first tee time, when few would venture out.... Gets an early start on the day and gives me chance to drop an extra ball, practice chips and putts and work on my game. I never keep score... Just count the pars and birdies (I'm just learning this game). These are things I would never do if being paired. In case I am paired up... I don't have an issue there.... And I refrain from the practice strategy. I once caught up to someone ahead of me and they asked me to join up with them. Just couldn't figure out how they got on the course ahead of me  . It is fun to meet new people and learn about them and what they like and do.

[possumkiwi]

My buddy and I asked a single once and his reply was "I have three kids under 5 and this is the only peace and quiet I get all week, so if you don't mind I'd rather just be on my own."  Poor    bastard, we thought that was a fine excuse so left him to it.