Taking my wife out for 9 holes today

[hero419]

It's her first time in years. She has been out 3 or 4 times years ago.
Any tips? I'm a duffer myself and would hate to steer her wrong. Do I just stand back and attempt to let her figure it out herself?

[alomar123]

Id tell her to take half swings

[clearwaterms]

Male chauvinist answer: tell her to hold your beer while you play. and not to hold it by the neck so it doesn't get too warm. And if she doesn't make any comments for the entire round you will tip her extra later. (sorry, couldn't resist)

Even though you are a duffer, you can probably identify the simple things (proper grip, posture, tempo, etc) But also, just feel her out, she is your wife, if you think she is looking for suggestions, offer them. if she is content with the game she is playing, leave her be and enjoy the experience together. If she wants to get better, you can always sign her up for some instruction and she can be well on her way to improvement.

[Able Hands]

When I take my wife out, almost weekly now, I ask at the beginning of each round... Do you want help, or just to be left to your own swing? Alternatively I'll say, if you want help ask, otherwise I am going to keep my mouth shut.

If I tried to feel my wife out on the golf course I'd get SMACKED!

[meenman]

I learned a long time ago to never give my wife advice.

If I open my mouth it is my fault the ball went in the sand, hazard, not far enough, too far, behind her, etc........

[montru]

Don't do it lol

[WUTiger]

It's probably too late, but the following would have helped.

* Three days before, take her out to chip and putt a little.

* Two days before, take her out and show her full shot line-up, and let her hit some full shots.

* Day of: Chip and putt for a few minutes, hit a dozen full shots, and tee off.

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The above is flawed; a golf clinic would be a better re-start
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My wife has had lessons a few different times, but plays maybe twice a year. She could get "back in the swing" for a dozen times a summer if we can de-clutter our personal schedules. Anyway...

What you don't want to do is take a woman out to the course, give her clubs, and expect her to play. A combo of

{frustation + embarrassment} = I hate golf!

A friend of mine who's getting into golf did this to his wife, and now she's negative about the game!!!

[VMAN]

I learned a long time ago to never give my wife advice.

I follow this philosophy as well and we have a great time on the course. If she wants my advice, she'll ask. My dad played with my wife and I once, he gave her instructions after and before every shot. She quit after nine holes. He asked me what was wrong, I told him it's no wonder your wife doesn't play golf with you anymore. He just wanted her to do well, but in the end it was counterproductive. To clear it up for him, I asked: "do you give your buddies advice before and after every shot, or do you just let them play their game?" He now understands the situation.

[senorchipotle]

probably too late, but seriously, don't do it! there's a reason why the great harvey penick never attempted to give his wife any golf lessons. i tried to take my gf out to the range to show her some stuff, and every bad shot she hit was my fault, while the ''good ones'' were doing something i didn't tell her to do. while simultaneously hitting balls, she'll ask ''did you see that one?" as if i can somehow magically watch her and hit my own at the same time. and she asks me why i never take her to the range.

[Cornbread]

tell her to hold your beer while you play. and not to hold it by the neck so it doesn't get too warm. And if she doesn't make any comments for the entire round you will tip her extra later.

Now thats my kind of gal !

[Cornbread]

I often see these middle-aged guys at my Club with their wives. These poor guys look sooo miserable!. Their Shamu's have taken up the game so they can be with their husbands full-time. Poor guys just can't catch a break!!!
Personally I don't see the fun in playing Golf if you can't hit it out of your shadow, nor break 110. Just MHO.

[Cornbread]

My wife & I go go out twice per week for Lunch, conversation while Golfing, and Sex. She goes on Tuesdays, I go on Fridays!

[NormH3]

I'd never take my wife to the course. Then I would have to introduce her to my girlfriend.

[senorchipotle]

I'd never take my wife to the course. Then I would have to introduce her to my girlfriend.

very well said. that should be a maxim.

[hero419]

It went great. We did 9 holes in less than 2 hours. It was the best game of my year so far. Nobody behind us, sunny day. she shot a 56. Many times her T shot from the ladies T box was near mine. On hole 9 her second shot hit my ball in the fairway.
I started with a par, bird, par and ended with a 45. Felt great.
If we didn't share a six pack, I may have not fallen apart in the end.

[Crey23]

It went great. We did 9 holes in less than 2 hours. It was the best game of my year so far. Nobody behind us, sunny day. she shot a 56. Many times her T shot from the ladies T box was near mine. On hole 9 her second shot hit my ball in the fairway.

Awesome....

I'm trying to get the wife to play......she want us to spend more time together....and I love golf, so perfect right? Not a chance....she is so turned off from golf is not even funny....mind you, when I buy attire for golf she wants me to buy her stuff....she has her own bag, gloves, and brand new nike golf shoes...and I still can't get her out there. In all fairness to her, we do have a 9.5 month old at home, but we could find a grandma to sit for us....lol Great story man..thanks for sharing!!! Hope is not lost!!!

[wrx_junki]

probably too late, but seriously, don't do it! there's a reason why the great harvey penick never attempted to give his wife any golf lessons. i tried to take my gf out to the range to show her some stuff, and every bad shot she hit was my fault, while the ''good ones'' were doing something i didn't tell her to do. while simultaneously hitting balls, she'll ask ''did you see that one?" as if i can somehow magically watch her and hit my own at the same time. and she asks me why i never take her to the range.

Not wife but the girl friend does the exact same things. It's pretty tough to play with her since she gets frustrated easily. Have been using up all kinds of excuses to not take her out on the field since it becomes a not so fun round of golf.

[hero419]

We have a 1 year old and a 3 year old, we got her dad to watch them.
She called me just now and asked if we can go again tonight. She said she was thinking of the strokes that she could have done better on.

I hope it does not rain!