Wow- @MattM if a guy said that in my groups we would have a real problem-The problem is that guy would not be an acceptable playing partner at all because his talk is nowhere near strong enough to hang with us.-We are competitive every week and -CONSTANTLY- ribbing each other on all kinds of shit. I will crack on my own students about their swing flaw that we are working on and they eat it up and give me shit right back.
The guy said he was glad he wasn not in the bunker-And that was all it took? Bank on it that this guy will remember this now and will redouble his efforts to get under your skin the next time you play.-WITHIN THE RULES.
Maybe you are not cut out for any level of competitive golf right now.
Agreed. Once more practice time has been put in on the setups, these thoughts will not be filling his mind. I think the competitor comments just added to an already existing mental confusion and was then treated as a scapegoat of sorts.
This is probably a bit more productive. The other guy may have irritated you, but you already had too many thoughts going on. You now take responsibility for the poor shots, but at the time you were looking for an outside cause, and he was right there. As you work through the swing changes, you'll hit better shots more often, and this kind of stuff will bother you a lot less.