Golf or Spouse/Significant Other?

[PiKapp23]

If your wife/husband/girlfriend/significant other said you had to choose forever - golf or them - which would you choose?

It might sound like a stupid question at first, but for most golfers I know the course causes a lot less grief than their 'other' (and is cheaper as well).

For those that don't respond, we'll just assume it's because you're afraid your other will read this...

And don't use the excuse "They would never put me in that position".

[Fat Slice]

Women come, women go....but my slice is forever!

Actually, I could not imagine being married without having golf as an outlet. Quitting golf would pretty much doom any hypothetical marriage I might make the mistake of stumbling into.

[neophyte]

This is not a simple question! Lets turn it around.
1. Ask your wife to choose between her mother or you!
2. Does your wife have her priorities in order. Is her husband, children, and normal responsibilities in order, or does her mother always come first before everything else?
3. Does the husband or wife expect the family to be all about him or her. Does everyone and their interests have value in the family. Or does someone believe the world revolves around them and their interests.

[PEZGolf]

If your wife/husband/girlfriend/significant other said you had to choose forever - golf or them - which would you choose?

I chose the third answer--"no comment" since she is watching. Actually, my wife of 29 years has been pretty accommodating about my golf. She knew when she married me that golf is very important. When our son and daughter were growing up, I would play some holes at 8 PM on summer nights and be home by 9 PM. Then, John and Leanne started playing and enjoyed it. Both played well on the high school team, and John went on to play college golf, and was an All-American in his junior year. He is now the Asst Coach for men and women golf teams at St. Lawrence University and is the Head Pro at the course that the college owns. He tried banking for two years, and said that he "missed golf too much". Our granddaughter, Ryleigh, has been at golf for two years, and is only 4 years old. She loves to go to the course with me, and go to the practice putting green or the driving range. She is way too young to play on the course,and she understands that. I taught my wife to play when John was about 7 and Lee about 4 years old, but she took such a full swing that she hurt her left shoulder, and never went back to playing. Obviously, golf has become a family sport, and we have many good, shared memories. Both of our children have played in the junior golf tournament that we have run for 27 years in memory of my brother, Steve. How does the old saying go---"the family that plays together stays together"? Also, I have my own part-time golf business, and my wife is fairly understanding about the demands that places on my time. In summation, we have "worked it out" so we are both reasonably happy about the huge place that golf represents in my life. I tell her that I am a "golf enthusiast", and not a "golf fanatic". She agrees with that statement, sort of.

[glebert]

I think I could live without golf. I have other hobbies that require me to buy all sorts of toys, and they are probably more fulfilling than golf, and less stressful. Come to think of it, why do I play this stupid game anyway? Thanks!





kidding, of course

[PEZGolf]

Women come, women go....but my slice is forever!

Your post reminds me of what PG Wodehouse wrote--"A woman is just a woman but a hefty drive is a slosh". Do not let my wife know that I used that quote again. I think we all can figure out what a "slosh" is. By the way, that quote is from a short story entitled, "A woman is only a woman".

[steviesouthpaw]

I'm trying my hardest not to give a speech here about what is important. I would hope that he who posed this question is not married. I love this sport and it enriches my life in a huge way, its incredibly satisfying; however, if I didn't have my wife around those supplemental things in life would cease to light the same fire they do with her in it. One of the core elements in marriage is that you are sharing the same life. If someone truly loves you in this way you'll never have to make a choice like that. Having said all that, if you're still real young and testing the waters with a girlfriend and have to make that choice, that becomes an enjoyable, uncontested break away slam dunk: When's my tee time?

[ganjagolfer]

definitely the wife although i would be cheating on her and sneaking out and playing golf

[GaijinGolfer]

If any woman demanded that I choose between something I love and her, I would definetly have to show her the door.
We all have our hobbies and things we do for fun or to release stress. Towards the end of last year I was dating this woman who went and played bingo almost every Sunday. She would pay about $30 to go play and then if you got bingo they had different amount of money that you could win for each game.
I thought bingo was kinda stupid, but I still went with and played bingo with her to take an interest in her hobbies.
She and I talked about golf sometimes and I could tell she thought golf was stupid and she once told me that golf seemed like a very expensive hobby, but she never really tried to get me to quit playing golf.
If she had even told me to choose between golf or her, I would have told her goodbye.

[PEZGolf]

If any woman demanded that I choose between something I love and her, I would definetly have to show her the door.

Good post. You are right---we all need an activity to relieve stress and just relax. Our wives or girlfriends have to understand that about us and we have to understand that about them. You and your girlfriend have the right attitude. By the way, my Mom used to play bingo once or twice a week when she was alive. It was for the chance to talk to her friends and just "get out of the house". My Dad understood that. She let Dad and me play golf on the weekends as her part of the "bargain".

[tjy355]

This is not to say that golf is more important than your spouse/significant other, HOWEVER, in a true and proper relationship, a partner would NEVER make such an ultimatum. Were it to happen, that is a sure sign that the choice of partner was not right and time to reevaluate the relationship.

[David in FL]

My wife, of course.

But a lot of that is probably because she's the type of person who would never ask me to give up something that she knows is so important to me.

[bogeyhitter25]

It's obvious for me considering I'm 15. I've had my fair share of girfriends, but it's not like they ever last long at my age. No doubt, I'd take golf. Besides, there's a 99% chance that I marry somebody I know after high school.

[flopdarock]

id never be with someone that didnt like my hobbies... golf/surfing/sportbikes... etc etc

[GaijinGolfer]

This is not to say that golf is more important than your spouse/significant other, HOWEVER, in a true and proper relationship, a partner would NEVER make such an ultimatum. Were it to happen, that is a sure sign that the choice of partner was not right and time to reevaluate the relationship.

Exactly and thats why I would never let any woman make me give up the things I love just to be with her.

Anyone who tries to control your life like that doesnt truly love you and thats the point in time where you gotta ask yourself if that person is really right for you.

[mirv]

i choose golf.

relationships are for the young and criminally insane. i'm a perma-bachelor.

[steviesouthpaw]

i choose golf.

"Jackie Treehorn treats objects like women...man!"

[4ringslvr]

I would choose golf because if a woman is telling me there:s something I cant do then there is something wrong with that.