Buddy Trip Etiquette - Who's Right ?

[saevel25]

Originally Posted by golfisme56

New to this site and don't know how to topic search yet but wanted to ask anyway.  I'll try to frame the question without indicating which side I am on.

Player A invites player B (both are friends) on a golf buddy trip and indicates he is trying to get at least 2 foursomes to play.  A few days later A indicates to B that since there were only 5 players to "sign up" that since B was the 5th to commit - that B would have to find an extra player if he wanted to participate.  Therefore - there would be enough players for at least 2 groups of three.  In other words - A did not think that 5 was enough for a good grouping for the trip since they would have divide into two groups of 3 and 2 for the courses they were playing.  B felt the 3/2 groupings were OK since they would be alternating during the 3 rounds to be played.  B also felt that since he was invited and committed that just because he was the last to commit - should not dictate that he (or anyone else) be "dropped" from the trip.

What do you think?

Thanks so much in advance for your reply!

Since its player A's trip and he's planning it, i don't see why Player B should think his opinion should be considered equal in this regard. I think that it could be done, and should be considered, but if player A wants to cut someone, that's life, deal with it.

[MS256]

Originally Posted by Shorty

B realises that A is a complete jerk and happily terminates the friendship.

^^^Yep.

P.S. I've played 3 against 2 plenty of times. Not a perfect scenario but not imperfect enough to cancel somebody out of a game. "A" sounds like he's wound a little to tight to be my "friend" anyway.

[SCfanatic35]

Originally Posted by golfisme56

ANSWER :  I AM PLAYER B !!

What to believe, this post or your avatar?

[Golfingdad]

Originally Posted by SCfanatic35

What to believe, this post or your avatar?

He didn't have an avatar for most of the day ... it's a safe bet that was given to him by one of the mods right about the time that we were all thinking he was player A.

[tristanhilton85]

Originally Posted by golfisme56

ANSWER :  I AM PLAYER B !!    I THINK I WOULD HAVE TO BE PRETTY MESSED UP TO POST THIS AS PLAYER A  AND EXPECT TO GET MUCH SUPPORT - NOT ONLY AMONG GOLFERS BUT NON-GOLFERS AS WELL.  I THINK IT IS OBVIOUS THAT PLAYER A DOESN'T VIEW THE FRIENDSHIP THE SAME AS I DO - AS I TOLD HIM ... IF IT WERE ME ORGANIZING -- I AM FIGURING OUT HOW PLAYER A IS GOING TO JOIN THE REST OF THE GROUP!!  ESPECIALLY SINCE I'VE INVITED HIM AND HIS WIFE TO JOIN US ON SEVERAL VACATIONS WE HAVE TAKEN OVER THE YEARS.  NOT ONCE DID I RENEGE ON THE INVITATION OR TELL HIM HE HAD TO GET ANOTHER COUPLE TO GO.  SOMETIMES WE MIGHT THINK..."AM I THE ONE NOT GETTING THIS CORRECTLY " ??  --- SO IT HELPS TO SEE HOW OTHERS VIEW A SITUATION.    IT'S A SHAME THAT MANY OF US ONLY HAVE FEW REAL FRIENDS IN LIFE AND TO HAVE SOMETHING LIKE THIS HAPPEN IS DIS-APPOINTING TO SAY THE LEAST.

THANKS TO ALL WHO HAVE PROVIDED INPUT SO FAR!!

Why are you yelling?

[BostonBrew]

I want the 3 minutes it took me to read this thread back...

[France46]

While it sounds like A could have handled it better, 5 can be a tough number to divide up.  We ended up with 5 at a friends wedding when the brides father joined us- very nice guy and we made it work with the groom moving from one pair to the other, but it was a bit more awkward and would have been better had we had 4 or 6.

[MacDutch]

If you only get the info from player B, you can't make a good assessment of the situation. So my answer is: not enough info, I want to hear from A whats his view on it. People tend to give clouded info.