Playing with someone who takes you "out of your game"

[Jack Watson]

20 hours ago, gatsby47 said:

Can you swear with flair? Can you quote Caddyshack ad nauseum.?  Other than kicking the shit out of him which may disrupt the on going flow of your friendship, you must learn to either walk away from this game being played upon you and find the quiet friendship you might be craving elsewhere which happens frequently. Or you have to get a years supply of Turtle wax and toughen the shell.  I wont, as Dave mentioned, watch anyone's swing.  I will watch a ball but I know that in the day to day normal play, my group collectively carries more than 400 golf balls.  I don't care when my golf ball lease is over.  I mention that I have only rented it and carry on. This sets a pace for the must seek out golf ball hunters. I can sing if I have to annoy along with swearing and cartoon and movie quotes. But I mostly enjoy all the shots; mine ,my partners, our companions. If it is a bad shot, they know it. There are times to give it a proper appropriate  sendoff and other times to let it go quietly. To me that epitomizes good golf buddies.  And makes the game the best

Pretty good post.  I would also say if the guys your buddy you ought to be able to stick the knife in and twist if you feel like it.  The thought that keeps coming into my mind is toughen up.  I cannot imagine asking a friend to tone down trash talk because it bothers my game.  I mean really?  What are you a woman?  The only situation where I would get mad is if it's during my address or swing.  Outside that who cares?  It's just bullshit.  

 

[Ladysmanfelpz]

On 5/5/2017 at 8:52 PM, gregsandiego said:

I'm still trying to reconcile how he is 

1. A good friend

2. Someone you can't stand to be around.

Lol at this.  He's the good friend of our group who can also be the annoying deuche.  

On 5/6/2017 at 6:15 PM, Jack Watson said:

Pretty good post.  I would also say if the guys your buddy you ought to be able to stick the knife in and twist if you feel like it.  The thought that keeps coming into my mind is toughen up.  I cannot imagine asking a friend to tone down trash talk because it bothers my game.  I mean really?  What are you a woman?  The only situation where I would get mad is if it's during my address or swing.  Outside that who cares?  It's just bullshit.  

 

Thanks for the sexist comment Jack.  Did you not read the whole thread?  It's not just trash talk.  It takes the fun out of the game.  

 

And he does do it at address!  He's the one who will throw the cart in reverse right before you hit.  Or make some annoying noise pre-shot. Throw a ball between your legs as you're about to drive.  He tries to chalk it up that he is the "funny guy" but its just annoying and I don't like it on the golf course.  Hell just last round we were playing a small money game and on a clutch putt he decides to throw his ball at the hole to get the read, and goes "Oh i tripped."  Funny?  Or immature behavior?  

[Jack Watson]

3 hours ago, Ladysmanfelpz said:

Lol at this.  He's the good friend of our group who can also be the annoying deuche.  

Thanks for the sexist comment Jack.  Did you not read the whole thread?  It's not just trash talk.  It takes the fun out of the game.  

 

And he does do it at address!  He's the one who will throw the cart in reverse right before you hit.  Or make some annoying noise pre-shot. Throw a ball between your legs as you're about to drive.  He tries to chalk it up that he is the "funny guy" but its just annoying and I don't like it on the golf course.  Hell just last round we were playing a small money game and on a clutch putt he decides to throw his ball at the hole to get the read, and goes "Oh i tripped."  Funny?  Or immature behavior?  

 

[drmevo]

5 hours ago, Ladysmanfelpz said:

Lol at this.  He's the good friend of our group who can also be the annoying deuche.  

Thanks for the sexist comment Jack.  Did you not read the whole thread?  It's not just trash talk.  It takes the fun out of the game.  

 

And he does do it at address!  He's the one who will throw the cart in reverse right before you hit.  Or make some annoying noise pre-shot. Throw a ball between your legs as you're about to drive.  He tries to chalk it up that he is the "funny guy" but its just annoying and I don't like it on the golf course.  Hell just last round we were playing a small money game and on a clutch putt he decides to throw his ball at the hole to get the read, and goes "Oh i tripped."  Funny?  Or immature behavior?  

Yeah I would hate that, and I'm fine with some spirited ball busting here and there. When the trash talking gets excessive and when it's ALL that with no normal conversation in between it just gets annoying. Sounds like your friend is socially not all there. I think we've all got a buddy or two that just doesn't get it and doesn't know when to quit. It's not like you're dicking around the back yard drinking, it costs good money to play golf.

 

[Kalnoky]

On 5/2/2017 at 10:13 AM, Ladysmanfelpz said:

And he is a good friend, been friends since freshman year of high school, but he has excessive confidence and hyper competitiveness that others mentioned.  

I had a long-time "best friend" exactly like that - hype competitive going all the way back to high school. I tolerated him for years because he was a fun guy (for the most part) and because we had so much history.

One day when he overstepped his bounds (yet again) I decided I'd had enough and cut him out of my life. In the ensuing years, my life has dramatically improved. I mean, everything got better: work, hobbies, women, investment decisions - everything.

I have never missed him, not even for one (1) minute. 2nd best decision of my life was kicking that prick to the curb. 

Edited May 8, 2017 by Kalnoky

[gregsandiego]

6 hours ago, Kalnoky said:

I had a long-time "best friend" exactly like that - hype competitive going all the way back to high school. I tolerated him for years because he was a fun guy (for the most part) and because we had so much history.

One day when he overstepped his bounds (yet again) I decided I'd had enough and cut him out of my life. In the ensuing years, my life has dramatically improved. I mean, everything got better: work, hobbies, women, investment decisions - everything.

I have never missed him, not even for one (1) minute. 2nd best decision of my life was kicking that prick to the curb. 

Yes! I guess that's what I see in this post and why it gets to me. It's note really even so much just about golf...

 

I've had friends like that. Then when you step back and really think about it this "friend" is a source of stress. Maybe it's a bully pretending to be a friend? Not sure the best way to classify it but your decision to cut one out makes a lot of sense.