Sounds like you and I have very similar games. We’re both about bogey golfers. How far do you hit your driver? That’s what you should look at first. For example, I hit my driver probably 220 in the winter. With the Tee It Forward system, the white tees at my home course align perfectly with my driver distance (par 72, 6063 yards).
Other resort courses in my area will also try their best NOT to pair people up unless necessary. Only city courses will fill to capacity at all times. I have never played the other 2 private clubs so I don’t know how they run things. It is definitely different at my club.