When I met my wife, she quickly learned of my devotion to the game. For first couple years, she wanted it to be my thing. Recently, she has taken an interest in wanting to try it. Either way is good by me. Would be fun as a family with our kid to go golf. But, either way, I’ll have my time with the game.
You need to remember that the fulcrum for a swing weight scale sits at 14 inches from the butt end of the club. That means that the majority of whatever shaft you are using will be out past the fulcrum. Therefore the shaft weight plays a greater influence on the head side of the club vs. the grip and why a heavier shaft will increase SW more than a lighter one.
Of course there are also shaft balance points to take into consideration but for this example I am assuming our hypothetical shafts are the same other than material and weight.
Your example above would depend on the weights of the two shafts since 38.5 to 39.5 would usually equal 6 SWP. Your weight difference breakeven would be around 54g to tip the scale either way.
I played my first round in 22 years on May 30 of this year.
All 4 courses at Shanty Creek Resort. (It's 7 miles from the cottage).
Oak Ridge - both courses
Cedar Glen- repeatedly
Golden Hawk - a lot
Country Club Of Detroit (guest)
St Clair Shores Muni
Lake St Clair Metropark (par 3 course)
Burning Tree (guest)
Stony Creek Metropark
Don't get your hopes up. Women do a lot of things to attract a mate. The only way to know if she is into golf for real, and not just to get a mate, is if she goes and plays on her own. My wife and I have been a couple since 2006. She has never went to play golf on her own or with just her and her friends. She will only go if I ask her to. I've tried getting her to play and take it up as a hobby, but I think she only got into it because I liked it, and she wanted to do something together. She doesn't practice or even touch her clubs. It's like pulling teeth to get her to come out. Now, if we go somewhere on a trip and I take my clubs, she wants to ride in the cart with me and watch. To her credit, she was walked and rode many times with me, but she doesn't play!
I think now that the kids are starting to show an interest in it, especially my daughter who hits on the sim with me some, she's starting to show an interest again. In fact, once I built the golf tent for the simulator room, she came out in pretty cold weather and hit balls for a good long while. She had a nice push draw going too!
Have you looked into “Tiger Stepping”? I’ve always had trouble flighting down wedges with wedge specific shafts but have just lived with it. My best wedge flight came from my old Ping Eye2’s that were before someone came up with wedge shafts. Check it out, I think it has to do with using your sets 8 iron in the wedges.