Quit or continue (based on time and skill...)

[RandomUser123]

Hello,

of course I know that I have to answer this question even at the end, but I would like some feedback from you :)

I wonder if I should sell all current and really stop my golf stuff first and only in about 10 years I once again deal with it, or if I go through with the thing and try to master :)

Short info about me:
34 years old, started in the end of 2011, 2012 then few training sessions, range and short courses, 2013, played a full membership at a regular club with 18 hole tournaments on HCP 31 came in 4,5 Tournaments and almost nothing more after that. 2014 again one time 18 hole and a coach hour (this was in June) and 3 days ago in Belek on the Range in MaxxRoyal and wanted to p lay 9 holes but i did not...i was too bad on range and did not want to ruin the fairways...

I've become 2014 a daddy,  of course many many other priorities and club membership and intensive hobby is not to think, but rather as follows: Where I work is directly a public 9 hole course, that I might in the summer months once a week playing on the range and or coach hour or 9 holes and sometimes on weekends, a round or two, I think - this is the time factor, certainly not much but hopefully always enough to also improve to?

But what in my eyes more an obstacle: My expectations coupled with my talent or existing Skill: I've been to 4 coaches, have no real momentum but I suggest to the ball, totally cramped, had after 50 balls calluses on his hands , have no real lenghts and no one was able to really help me. Really bad are irons, full swings on the range and then on the grass tees, since blocked everything, I hoe into the ground, toppe the balls, sockets, everything ...

On the pitching green I  have a bit feeling, balls are going smooth in the air etc...,Driver and hybrid off the tee is okay, but I think it's really not normal as it is now in Belek on the range that after x years and tens of hours of training you will not be able is an iron 7,8,9 ever to get the ball in the air on from grass tees, but can no longer be normal or?

How many beginners make already in place short maturity of the ball? of course not great and on the course,  it would be something else, but I'm unfortunately it did not realize ... Have really really tried a lot ... coach, "private" gurus, videos, etc ... .. a coach was the ExTrainer by Max Kieffer, So definitely someone who knows it. In the hours I had by far my best hits, 7 iron, even 6 and 5..smooth and really good .. The only problem was always: Once an hour to an end: No more compared with the hits which I then made, have for weeks training sessions without a coach me almost non improved .

That is God knows no whining only be a realistic decision ... I am not talented like so many "young people" who start and after 12 months HCP 15 or 10 have, but I'm athletic and got used to be so often hear about how great my swing is and how "long" but I suggest ... With the length I had, I've resigned myself, I'm feeling just to the abnormal number of correct failures in relation to normal balls ...

Driver I carry about 170 meters I think an 8 iron 120 ... maybe that's not much, but okay, I could see a SW in full then sweeping the 50.60 meter high nice play on the green, so no one really does do not get it, have ever great par 3s directly onto the green, etc ... .. and then you want to repeat as any golfer .. of course but it is exactly the point that when I'm with an 7-iron on the range and from 10 balls perhaps one of so very roughly flies and 5 are shown in bold in the soil and 20meter wide rollen..das I think after all these years, training sessions and round on the court no longer normal ...

In addition I am working 24 hours a day felt somehow Golf thoughtful technical, so even an addiction ... The less I play, the more the thoughts...

I'm really frustrated when at least 10 people on the Range. 8 looks so easy swing, each ball flies into the air ... I wonder how little talent you have to actually have?

Sorry for the long post :)

And sorry for the bad english..thanks to google translator :)

[Rynrem]

I actually thought about starting a similar thread. I didn't read all of yours...sorry it is long.

Anyway, I am extremely frustrated now myself. I am 2 clubs shorter in distance. I can no longer hit an iron above a Gap Wedge....the rest of them just S# @^k off the club or are so fat, the divot flies further than the ball. The more I try to implement some 5SK stuff...the worse I get.

I don't know what to do except to keep working....or quit. I love golf and don't want to quit but its not much fun right now.

Good luck to you

[Crim]

I'm going to be honest....didn't read.

Whatever you do though, don't quit. Take it easy for awhile....just play a few rounds for fun. Last year I went through a really bad month where I couldn't hit the ball with anything but a half swing driver & hybrid. It was quite easily the most embarrassing thing happening on the course. You know what though? I still had fun...and I've figured things out since then. You may be just one swing away from figuring things out. Trust me, I know.

[Mac62]

To me, the answer would be simple:  If you're not enjoying it, quit.  If you're still having fun, keep playing, try to improve, but don't worry about the scores.  Unless you're a pro whose livelihood depends upon how you shoot, who cares?

I'm not a good golfer.  I have moments of brilliance, usually then followed by several which look like I've never touched a golf club before.  I usually shoot anywhere from low-high 90s, occasionally breaking into the high 80s and occasionally going over 100.  But I enjoy every moment on the golf course, so if that's as good as I ever get, it is what it is.  Sure, it can be damaging to the ego to go out there and really stink it up, but any day on the golf course enjoying time with friends is still a great day.  If I ever got to the point where I wasn't enjoying golf anymore, for whatever reason, I'd take a break from it or give it up.  Life's too short to waste time doing things you don't enjoy doing.

[Rick Martin]

To me, the answer would be simple:  If you're not enjoying it, quit.

I quit a yr ago....no desire to play anymore

[Jakester23]

I quit a yr ago....no desire to play anymore

Why?

[Mac62]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mac62

To me, the answer would be simple:  If you're not enjoying it, quit.

I quit a yr ago....no desire to play anymore

A friend of mine was a 3-4 handicap and quit the game for two years.  I asked him why and he said it was because every time he didn't go out and score well, he got so angry and frustrated that he just wasn't enjoying the game anymore.  I was about a 30 hcp at the time and told him to just relax, go out and have fun and enjoy it for what it is.  He said "I'd gladly take your handicap and shoot your scores if I could do that.  I really wish I could".  When he finally dug the clubs out of the attic a couple years later, he had a completely new attitude.  He still had moments of his "old" self, but we'd immediately call him on it (in a joking way) and he'd usually snap out of it.

[Crim]

A friend of mine was a 3-4 handicap and quit the game for two years.  I asked him why and he said it was because every time he didn't go out and score well, he got so angry and frustrated that he just wasn't enjoying the game anymore.  I was about a 30 hcp at the time and told him to just relax, go out and have fun and enjoy it for what it is.  He said "I'd gladly take your handicap and shoot your scores if I could do that.  I really wish I could".  When he finally dug the clubs out of the attic a couple years later, he had a completely new attitude.  He still had moments of his "old" self, but we'd immediately call him on it (in a joking way) and he'd usually snap out of it.

What would you say his handicap is at now?

[newtogolf]

Obviously everyone has their own reasons for quitting or considering it.  I think the game appears so simple at the surface that we consider it a personal failure when we can't play to the levels we expect of ourselves.  I was pretty frustrated today that I was unable to carry over my practice to the course.  I scored okay but wasted too many shots because I fell back into old habits that I thought I had gotten rid of based on my practice and range time.

If you're not enjoying it, then as with any hobby you should take a break.  Life if too tough overall so when the things that should provide us with an escape or joy result in anger and frustration it's probably best to walk away for a bit and see if you miss it.

[rkim291968]

I've got the gist of the OP's post although I rarely read long posts.   Golf is a game and is not for everyone.  Either you learn to enjoy the journey despite not improving, or you move on to another hobby.  Having said that, golf does not have to be all about improving.  It's a game that can be played with others you love, or like to hang out with.

My late (younger) brother quit playing golf many times.  He'd practice, have a bad round, become angry, and put away his golf gear never to touch again.  Some weeks or months later, he's back playing golf again.  He was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer 8 years prior to his eventual death.   In his last dying years, he and I had many memorable golf rounds together.   Despite the numerous times he quit playing golf, he was happy when we played golf.  He'd tell me so after he was too sick to play golf - the last round we played was 9 months before his death.  I will always treasure those golf moments together.

My wife and I play two three times per week.  Regardless of how bad we played our game, we love the game.

Today, we were paired with father and son twosome.   They really played poorly but seem to enjoy their father and son moment together.

Go figure.

Enjoy the game.

[Crim]

My late (younger) brother quit playing golf many times.  He'd practice, have a bad round, become angry, and put away his golf gear never to touch again.  Some weeks or months later, he's back playing golf again.  He was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer 8 years prior to his eventual death.   In his last dying years, he and I had many memorable golf rounds together.   Despite the numerous times he quit playing golf, he was happy when we played golf.  He'd tell me so after he was too sick to play golf - the last round we played was 9 months before his death.  I will always treasure those golf moments together.

Gull darn rick, you got me right in the feels.

Glad you had that wonderful time together.

[Mac62]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mac62

A friend of mine was a 3-4 handicap and quit the game for two years.  I asked him why and he said it was because every time he didn't go out and score well, he got so angry and frustrated that he just wasn't enjoying the game anymore.  I was about a 30 hcp at the time and told him to just relax, go out and have fun and enjoy it for what it is.  He said "I'd gladly take your handicap and shoot your scores if I could do that.  I really wish I could".  When he finally dug the clubs out of the attic a couple years later, he had a completely new attitude.  He still had moments of his "old" self, but we'd immediately call him on it (in a joking way) and he'd usually snap out of it.

What would you say his handicap is at now?

I moved out of state and haven't golfed with him (or even talked to him) in a couple years, so I have no idea.  I just tried to look him up on GHIN and he's not listed anymore.  He was routinely shooting low 80s with an occasional high 70s round after his comeback, so I'd guess he's probably still somewhere in the single digits if he kept it up.

[Rick Martin]

Why?

Burned out. Probably too much golf. Wasn't getting better. Short game yips, too. Seemed like it took a lot of the day away playing or practicing. I did practice a lot. Found tennis got me in better shape along w/ running, so those are my two "sports" that I do.  Enjoy feeling in better physical condition versus how I felt golfing. Just  personal thing - I've golfed for over 30 yrs, thought I should do something else. Probably will go back though as I'm moving to a home that situated on the first tee (and 9th green) of a golf course.

[Rick Martin]

Enjoy the game.

That would be a good marketing motto/slogan......

[krupa]

I know how the OP feels. It's easy to get frustrated by watching other players or reading about those guys who pick it up easily. I try to remind myself that the good players at the range have probably been playing for a long time and those guys who pick it up easily are in the minority. I think most people who try the game really struggle for a while. To the OP, try to ignore the other guys, go out and have fun. If you're not having fun, maybe look for something else to do.