Originally Posted by fRzzy
I have just look at my score cards of my last (first) 3 rounds, and it usually look like this 2 3 1 2 6 8 1 2 0 (strokes over par)
I'm new to the game, so bogey and double bogey is ok for me, but I tense up after a bad shot, and it results in more bad shots. How do you get over that last bad shot you make?
Just realize that no matter what you do, you can't take back the previous shot, so why get mad at it. I know you have expectations of your game, but you can't have expectations for each shot. Honestly, asking for perfection is an illusion. When i play, the only shot that matters to me, as a singular event is the final putt. Because there is no more shots after that, its the only shot in golf were its absolute. All other shots, there is a next shot.
So the way i look at it is, i know my game now, i know what i am capable over, REALISTICALLY!!!, i say that loudly, because its something many people can't do. Many people have illusions of there game and what there capable of. Its those people who sit 250 yards in the fairway to hit there 2nd shot into a par 5, when they just hit there longest drive of 240, cause they think they can magically get there 3 wood to go 250, ya NO. Its the same thought in knowing, maybe i should just punch out into the fairway instead of trying to hit this low sweeping hook that i never tried before. So, when i start around of course i have an expectation before the round to play good, but during the round, i hold none. I only step back to analyze my game after that final putt. This way i can be in the moment on the course, instead of trying to analyze my performance as i play. Of course i keep score, and if in a match, know what i might need to make up in the final few holes, but in no way am i laying down judgement on my game, i just adjust my aggressive shot taking, and focus more if i need to.
So for me is like putting up a mental wall saying, hold all judgement till the final statements. During the match, lets say i hit a ball OB, which i have done before. I might get agitated, that's natural, but i know my game, and i know i can save bogey, because i know i have saved par before, and i know i have made birdies before. So basically its saying, ok, i'm starting this hole over, and i will try for par. In the end, i am just stuck with one extra stroke. I know i can make up that shot elsewhere. If my game is totally shit, then i will just start playing for fun, i turn off my anger completely, and just try stupid stuff, like hitting huge cuts on a straight forward shot, just something strange to keep the game interesting. I mean if i am like 18 over par with 4 holes to play, i am pretty much going to concede this is was not my best day, so i'll just dry and have some fun playing the holes in as interesting a way as possible. This way i take the stress off of performing, and put it more in the way of, hey its just for fun, who cares if this shot doesn't work.