Relationship Issues Messing with Game?

[dennyjones]

13 minutes ago, MCrisp said:

More of a focus based question. How to block out negativity while playing? Thanks for your input though. 

Take this in jest!!!!!

I tell my wife all of the time...."Say what you mean, mean what you say"  

[Slim_Pivot]

After re-reading the question, I def misunderstood. It took my dad and I a while. We don’t give opinions unless the other is playing waaayyyy worse than usual. He might say things like “well that’s where you were aimed” after I blast a drive into the trees. we have full freedom to ignore each other or say buzz off and neither takes it personally. Set a ground rule to only “talk shop” after the round, unless asked.

[Effington]

7 hours ago, Slim_Pivot said:

My answer may disappoint you. It will effect you. In Jack’s autobiography, he mentions how his wife had a revelation that he believes to be true; Players who are in a good place within their relationship/marriage play better than those who are not. He claims the success of Arnie, Black Knight, and himself had a lot to do with each of them being married to an “amazing woman”

I have no science to back this up, but my experience has been that general stress levels play a huge part.  It's harder to stay calm and composed when something bad happens (in any sport, or life in general) when you're stressed in general.  Spousal relationships are obviously huge points of stress if they're not in good shape.

[MCrisp]

I like that!! Thank you for it! Will remember. Since I’m new here any and all advice is more than welcome. Just need somewhere to go to talk about golf!! That’s why I’m here!!

[criley4way]

One key in golf is to get into the focused mental state to let the body do the work. If you are having stress or anxiety it is hard to keep it our of your game. Stress kills your game no matter where it comes from. Try meditation or another relaxation technique.

[Valleygolfer]

3 hours ago, GolfLug said:

I noo you wuz whipped.. ha ha

Nah, passive aggressive... 😁

3 hours ago, MCrisp said:

More of a focus based question. How to block out negativity while playing? Thanks for your input though. 

I play with a guy that never shuts up and gets me rather irritated with his chatter during shot setup. I have been trying to limit play with him but the last time I played he tagged along. I decided to use it. I just decided that I would ignore and focus on the shot. If I was having difficulty, I would wait until I felt like I was immersed in the shot.... worked well.... this time. We'll see if it holds water. 

[308 Ragin Cajun]

When my now wife and I were dating, I had a beeper, no cellphone in those days. One day she beeped me on the golf course,.. i forget what about.  When I got home, i told her" There are only 2 reasons for you to call me on the golf course. 1. Someone is dying or 2 and preferably, they're already dead. 2 is preferable because if they're dying, I have to quit playing golf, and go try to do something. If they're already dead, there's nothing I can do, and I can keep playing golf." I was being mildly sarcastic,. but she got the message

[rkim291968]

I'd block the spouse out totally and just keep focusing on golf, one shot at a time.  

[Vinny Cap]

Do a lot of you play with the wife/husband?

Curious as when I was teaching the wife she thought she was gonna get in my Sat morning round.

Oh no.... this is me and the boys I told here.  We can play together after or Sunday or after work.

I had to remind her of Girls night out on Friday night... do I tag along??  She got the point.