How to convince the wife I need new irons???

[max power]

Man, my marriage must be very different than most of yours... If I need (or, let's face it, want) new irons, I budget a little bit ahead of time and then go get them. Do you guys go through your finances together with a fine toothed comb?

Good answer. Or better yet-how about just discussing it with her. "Honey, I've saved up a bit and I'm gonna get these golf clubs." We don't hide anything from each other-but if we can afford it and either one of us needs (or really wants) something there's no problem.

[Macklessdaddy]

Really reaaly simple,if you and her can afford them then you buy them period,If you guys are gonna have to eat top ramen for a month then no.

[c. lassiter]

Three words for you:

Separate checking account.

[shades9323]

Three words for you:

What is a good way to f up a marriage?

Thanks Alex, I'll take "this guy doesn't have a clue for 1000."

[chef35ca]

Girls love a day at the spa... (massage, facial, manicure, pedicure).

Best answer ever.

Especially if it's a spa that serves wine & endless tapas.

[Valleygolfer]

Surprise sex in the backdoor is a winner every time, do it and let me know how it works out! Also, call her by another name at the same time. It's a win win!

[ohiolefty]

What is a good way to f up a marriage?

Wow. I didn't know it's 1987. Hehe.

I'm 29. Most folks around my age who are married have a personal checking account and then they have a joint account. This is the case for my wife and I. I think 'nowadays' it's very common. Just buy your irons ON YOUR OWN - or wait till tax refund time and use your 'share' of it.

[c. lassiter]

What is a good way to f up a marriage?

I might not have a clue, but I do have a lot of new golf equipment.

[shades9323]

Wow. I didn't know it's 1987. Hehe.

I'm 30 and we do the joint thing. It seems strange to me to have "personal" accounts. Kind of defeats the purpose of a union. Why even get married if parts of your life are seperate? How do you guys determine how much goes into the personal account? Do you get even amounts each month?

[HDon]

You should use the New Groove Rule to your advantage. ie, "Honey, I have to get new clubs. Mine are illegal !"

[Ruckus]

We are by no means wealthy, but since I am the "finance guy" in the relationship, I know when we have some money to spend. I don't neglect the things we need and spend plenty on the wife and the baby. I find nothing wrong with occasionally (once or twice a year) spending a few hundred dollars on anything I want without clearing it with the ma'am. It's not like I'm hiding anything from her but I don't find the need to discuss all our purchases (under a thousand dollars). It is also a different dynamic because we are a single income house (read: I'm the one that gets the paycheck). I think things are very different when you have a dual income family since I would never spend money she earned without discussing it first.

[Stretch]

You should use the New Groove Rule to your advantage. ie, "Honey, I

That's bloody brilliant! Thank you.

[jamo]

You should use the New Groove Rule to your advantage. ie, "Honey, I

Do you realize what this means!?! You've finally answered the question: what is the point of the new groove rule?!?

[WUTiger]

i think you should just tell her which ones you want.

Unless your wife works for Golf Galaxy or the local pro shop, this would be the best way to go.

For your future years together, it's best to consult with each other before getting major gifts. Otherwise, you both start getting stuck with a lot of glitzy junk you can't use.

[ohiolefty]

I'm 30 and we do the joint thing. It seems strange to me to have "personal" accounts. Kind of defeats the purpose of a union. Why even get married if parts of your life are seperate? How do you guys determine how much goes into the personal account? Do you get even amounts each month?

Yes. We have a budget and we stick to it. Most of our monies go into the joint account, but we also have personal accounts. There's nothing that can really be hidden from the other, as we know exactly what each other makes.

"Why even get married if parts of your life are separate?". You don't surrender your individuality when you get married. Married couples that don't have rich lives apart from one another as well as rich lives together have a hard time. But anyhoo...

[shades9323]

Yes. We have a budget and we stick to it. Most of our monies go into the joint account, but we also have personal accounts. There's nothing that can really be hidden from the other, as we know exactly what each other makes.

I would argue that most marriage problems are as a result of money issues, not lack of "rich lives apart". Seperate accounts could lead to resentment towards the other especially if one gets more than the other. I never said you surrender your individuality when you get married. If you both get the same amount, what is the point of seperate accounts anyhow?

[JWL1957]

I have used every lie in the book when I bought new equipment. It never worked, so I always go get what I want and seek forgiveness later. :)

[inthecup]

Don't ask permission beg for forgiveness. Or get her drunk and ask then.