Withdrew during a club championship tournament ...

[rkim291968]

I was in the year ending two day club championship tournament.  One of the foursome since hole #1 has been talking loud about anything and everything.  He'd only stop talking just before someone/he takes a swing.    It bothered me and my partner a bit but we played on.   Then, after 5th or 6th hole, he started talking about politics as if we all had same view as he has (about Obama, Trump, Hilary).   My cart partner finally told him that his body gets tighten up if people are talking politics.   The guy didn't get the hint.   He kept on talking.   On that same hole, I hit an OB.   A friend who was waiting behind my group asked me how things are going and I made a joke about the guy talking about politics ("I was doing fine until XYZ start talking about politics").   As soon as I told the joke, the guy got really upset and told me that it was my fault that I hit an OB and he can talk about anything he can.   What?   It was a joke, dude.   I wasn't even upset as I have no realistic chance at winning the tournament.  He was joking, and talking all this time and all of sudden, he got upset at me for a joke?  On the next hole, I hit another OB and called it a day.   It was too awkward for me to continue playing with this guy.   As I walked away from the field, the other two golfers shook hands with me but the guy in question was walking away to hit his 2nd ball.   Oh, well.   

[newtogolf]

Sounds like the guy got in your and your cart partners head, which was probably intentional.  Jedi mind tricks. 

[Natural Patrick]

54 minutes ago, rkim291968 said:

I was in the year ending two day club championship tournament.  One of the foursome since hole #1 has been talking loud about anything and everything.  He'd only stop talking just before someone/he takes a swing.    It bothered me and my partner a bit but we played on.   Then, after 5th or 6th hole, he started talking about politics as if we all had same view as he has (about Obama, Trump, Hilary).   My cart partner finally told him that his body gets tighten up if people are talking politics.   The guy didn't get the hint.   He kept on talking.   On that same hole, I hit an OB.   A friend who was waiting behind my group asked me how things are going and I made a joke about the guy talking about politics ("I was doing fine until XYZ start talking about politics").   As soon as I told the joke, the guy got really upset and told me that it was my fault that I hit an OB and he can talk about anything he can.   What?   It was a joke, dude.   I wasn't even upset as I have no realistic chance at winning the tournament.  He was joking, and talking all this time and all of sudden, he got upset at me for a joke?  On the next hole, I hit another OB and called it a day.   It was too awkward for me to continue playing with this guy.   As I walked away from the field, the other two golfers shook hands with me but the guy in question was walking away to hit his 2nd ball.   Oh, well.   

No way something like that would make me quit.

[bkuehn1952]

1 hour ago, rkim291968 said:

... called it a day.   It was too awkward for me to continue playing with this guy.   As I walked away from the field, the other two golfers shook hands with me but the guy in question was walking away to hit his 2nd ball.   Oh, well.   

When playing is no longer fun, there is no point in continuing. I understand your decision.  I have had the unfortunate luck to have a few buttheads in my tournament groups.  So far I have managed to tune them out but if it got bad enough, I would walk in too.

[rkim291968]

1 hour ago, newtogolf said:

Sounds like the guy got in your and your cart partners head, which was probably intentional.  Jedi mind tricks. 

I don't think it was intentional.  He is just a talkative guy who couldn't take a hint, and got upset when he got some push back from playing partners.   I was wrong place at the wrong time.  

21 minutes ago, bkuehn1952 said:

When playing is no longer fun, there is no point in continuing. I understand your decision.  I have had the unfortunate luck to have a few buttheads in my tournament groups.  So far I have managed to tune them out but if it got bad enough, I would walk in too.

Thanks.  It wasn't fun at all and I didn't need the additional aggravation.  Another two hours of playing with the guy ... who knows, he could blow up again.     

[David in FL]

So you quit when you weren't playing well...huh.

  Something I just don't understand.  

[Hardspoon]

1 hour ago, rkim291968 said:

Thanks.  It wasn't fun at all and I didn't need the additional aggravation.  Another two hours of playing with the guy ... who knows, he could blow up again.     

That sucks. I'm assuming this was something you were looking forward to.

I can't imagine that this situation would annoy me enough to make me quit a round of golf...but, at the same time, if it's no longer enjoyable for you, then what's the point?

14 minutes ago, David in FL said:

So you quit when you weren't playing well...huh.

He quit when it stopped being enjoyable. Hell, there are folks I know who should do this, instead of cursing and grumbling their way through a round that they are clearly not enjoying.

[rkim291968]

23 minutes ago, David in FL said:

So you quit when you weren't playing well...huh.

  Something I just don't understand.  

I stopped playing when it wasn't fun playing with a jerk.  I was playing OK to be honest, within my HI range.    

[Golfingdad]

28 minutes ago, David in FL said:

So you quit when you weren't playing well...huh.

  Something I just don't understand.  

I'm with David on this one.  I don't get why you'd quit.  Block the guy out, stay as far away from him as possible, ignore him, confront him, whatever.  At the very least, keep playing and try and figure out what might work for you so you are ready to deal with it if it ever happens again.  What if next time happens to be while you're leading an important tournament?

[rkim291968]

20 minutes ago, Golfingdad said:

I'm with David on this one.  I don't get why you'd quit.  Block the guy out, stay as far away from him as possible, ignore him, confront him, whatever.  At the very least, keep playing and try and figure out what might work for you so you are ready to deal with it if it ever happens again.  What if next time happens to be while you're leading an important tournament?

< Initial reply deleted >

I will see if I can continue playing on when playing with someone I consider to be a jerk.   Enough said.

[Shooting29]

28 minutes ago, rkim291968 said:

I stopped playing when it wasn't fun playing with a jerk.  I was playing OK to be honest, withing my HI range.    

So his speech was so offensive you would have quit had you been leading or careering it?

Yeah, I'll buy that and some ocean front property in Arizona. 

Truth is you jacked back to back OB and it was convenient to blame jerky boy and walk off.

[rkim291968]

7 minutes ago, Shooting29 said:

So his speech was so offensive you would have quit had you been leading or careering it?

Yeah, I'll buy that and some ocean front property in Arizona. 

Truth is you jacked back to back OB and it was convenient to blame jerky boy and walk off.

???     He got upset at me first, not to mention that he was having his own bad game.   My tournament was lost in the previous day.  I wasn't playing that bad even with 2 OBs.   My game was within my HI range.   I've said that already.  

BTW, what do you know about me to claim the above?   You are a newbie with 62 posts, and I have been around in this forum for a few years, a Forum Leader.  You may want to check out my previous posts before making a judgement call.   Just saying.

 

[Golfingdad]

16 minutes ago, rkim291968 said:

< Initial reply deleted >

I will see if I can continue playing on when playing with someone I consider to be a jerk.   Enough said.

Obviously we're only talking about competitive golf here.  I work hard and I pay good money to enter tournaments and compete and I'll be damned if some guy who likes to talk a lot is going to keep me from playing.  That is not to say that I'd be immune to a guy like that because I very well might not be.  I might play the worst round I've ever played because I felt like I was being heckled (or whatever) but I'll be damned if I'd ever quit.

[newtogolf]

2 hours ago, rkim291968 said:

Thanks.  It wasn't fun at all and I didn't need the additional aggravation.  Another two hours of playing with the guy ... who knows, he could blow up again.     

Maybe you're not explaining what he did properly but it seems he just called you out for blaming your poor play on him, I wouldn't call that a blow up.  He either didn't know you were joking or didn't find the joke funny but did he rant on for a while or did he just make that one emphatic statement and it was over?  

I wasn't there but it seems you didn't like the guy nor his politics and since you weren't playing well enough to win you decided to quit. 

 

[rkim291968]

1 minute ago, newtogolf said:

Maybe you're not explaining what he did properly but it seems he just called you out for blaming your poor play on him, I wouldn't call that a blow up.  He either didn't know you were joking or didn't find the joke funny but did he rant on for a while or did he just make that one emphatic statement and it was over?  

I wasn't there but it seems you didn't like the guy nor his politics and since you weren't playing well enough to win you decided to quit. 

 

There's more to the story than the above.   I've posted it and then deleted it b/c I don't think it was appropriate.   He was talking about politics which upset both me and my cart partner.   Politics is better left alone than bring it in the club championship tournament.   Imagine ... hearing stuff about Obama, Clinton, Trump, supreme court in tee box AND as you know, Americans are deeply divided in this.   So, his going off on political talks while not understanding what others' view are ....   

Then, I don't deny that I wasn't playing well.  Neither was he.   I think he got upset at my joke after my cart partner pushed him back in the tee box.   

[Gator Hazard]

I had this issue with my ex playing partner. Every time we played he wanted to have the exact same conversation about politics and then he would whine about how he can't make any money and blah blah blah. It was obsessive and ridiculous. This is the same guy who can't hold his liquor and would get rude and obnoxious and yell and all kinds of stuff. I finally told him that I was sick of the same conversation, there are other things to talk about.  He whined and said he could talk about whatever he wants and I said I agree but I dont have to listen to it again and again and if that's the way it's gonna be he can get his own damn cart and play on his own. I told him I wasn't going to listen to it every time and that it was downright rude to expect to force someone to have and listen to the exact same conversation all the time.   

We are not playing partners anymore. Matter of fact we don't speak any more because he is not big enough a man to say sorry or admit he was wrong for constantly wanting to crybaby. I even went over with my wife and we invited them all over for sons bday party. Wife and kid came and he didn't. Hard to believe a mid 40s guy could be that immature but he is. In general a good guy but his out of space conspiracies get old really fast.

I guess my point is courtesy goes so far and then if necessary I am willing to assert myself and after a while probably would have told the guy to shut it. Then I would have said very loudly "Trump ****s your mother!!" (If that's his guy) Every time I swung the club until he gets it. Actually all kidding aside I did say this a few times to the asshole playing partner and we were both laughing.   Going to try and mess with my enjoyment and be an asshole, repeatedly, well....right back at ya!!

Lastly, its your money that you paid. If you want to walk away from it and are not enjoying it or whatever that is your choice and I don't blame or fault you. It's not like you are playing to put food on the family table. 

[CarlSpackler]

I would certainly encourage you to finish out any tournament round unless you're injured. Not sure if this guy was a jerk or just rude, but you should play on. 

[Club Rat]

I agree with the other guys to complete the round. I would and at times have asked friends, players to tone it down a bit and just play golf. I could care less about some topics and do not oppose conversation until it interrupts a players shot routine, especially on the tee.

It simple etiquette to all players.