I have no science to back this up, but my experience has been that general stress levels play a huge part. It's harder to stay calm and composed when something bad happens (in any sport, or life in general) when you're stressed in general. Spousal relationships are obviously huge points of stress if they're not in good shape.
If you’re new to the game TAKE LESSONS FIRST. Don’t try to “get good enough for lessons” I wish someone knew to send me to lessons when I started (I was young) Also once you can shoot in the 80’s join a game/league/group. A lot of us probably know over 200 people we would have never known if we didn’t play. Last thing. If you pick a “hot deal” on something like golf now, they might just pair you up. Look for hot deals with 2 spots remaining to weasel your way in lol.
After re-reading the question, I def misunderstood. It took my dad and I a while. We don’t give opinions unless the other is playing waaayyyy worse than usual. He might say things like “well that’s where you were aimed” after I blast a drive into the trees. we have full freedom to ignore each other or say buzz off and neither takes it personally. Set a ground rule to only “talk shop” after the round, unless asked.