So couple weeks ago I was playing in the my golf league's mid season tournament. We played a local Muni par 71, great challenging course. I was riding in a cart with a guy who is an A flighter which is a 5 handicap for 9 holes. I carry a 9 per 9.
Now during league play I dont have to play him at all since we are in different flights. Anyway we both bogie the 1st hole, par 5 We both bogied the 4th a par 3 The 7th a par 3, he hit his ball OB, duffed a chip, chipped short and 2 putted and carded a 6. Now the person had 1 birdie, a few pars and and bogies. I know he was atleast 6 over after the 1st 9. During the dinner and awards portion of the night, he wins the 2nd low gross score with a 77 and pockets a prize.
Later on someone remarked about him parring the 1st hole, which I know we both boggied. So I am assuming he changed his card (he was the scorer for out 4 some) Like I said I had him atleast 6 over for the front nine, and even with a birdie on the back he by no means shot par. Do you call this indivual out now that it is a few weeks after the fact.
Do you report him to the league?
Do you confront him quietly one on one?
Now once you answer that, what do you do if it is my father? So there is the kicker. My father who is 65 and plays atleast 4 times a week. He can hit the ball well, but he can not recover from bad golf. He began playing in retirement and learned to play alone when he worked on a golf course. He keeps a ball in his pocket and always gets a magic kick out of the woods.
He always speaks in "should have". That should have been a par. Should have been a birdie...... If he misses a 5 foot for par he puts down a par. his ego will not allow him to be human and mortal like the rest of us. He never shoots above an 83. He always has a second ball in his pocket, because he plays with a top flight off the tee, but puts with a pro v 1. He never marks his ball, so there is no identifying which his ball is.
Now we we are just playing 18 during the week in NON league play. I dont care what he does. I usually keep my own score card, so put down what ever you want. This is one of the reasons I wont bet on the course with him. If he cheats in league play, it is up to him opponent to catch him. But in a league tournament, where we are all competing against each other, it is different. What I find worse is that I am in the cart with him and if people know he cheats that is a reflection upon me.
It took me 30 years to establish a realationship with this man and it is largely on a golf course and in the bar afterwords. At 65 I know he does not have that many more years left especially playing at a 10 handicap. I have a feeling when his swing starts to go he will quit because he will refuse to play from the senior tees and will not tolerate playing bogie ball at best. So do I find another 4 some for league tournament? Do I tell him why I dont ride with him? Do I keep score from now on and call him out on the course (his golf buddies who are in the league know he does this, but never say anything. they silently condone it). Do I say nothing and enjoy what time I have?
In closing I will say it makes it real tough when he busts my chops for my lack of golf skills. I may not be very good, but I play the ball as It is and I know how to count!