Relationship Issues Messing with Game?

[MCrisp]

What does one do when they have an argument with their spouse and it messes with their shots? How does one get over it?

[iacas]

Trade in the spouse at Play It Again. Get one that suits your game better.

[MCrisp]

I can’t!!! He’s a better golfer than me!!! That would be a loss 😂

[CarlSpackler]

Same as with following up a bad shot or any other distraction, you learn to tune it out and focus on the next shot. 

[Valleygolfer]

 

16 hours ago, MCrisp said:

I can’t!!! He’s a better golfer than me!!! That would be a loss 😂

He will always be once he gets in your head a messes up your game.... 

[RickK]

Is this while on the course?  Is he playing in the same group as you?  If so, tell him to let you play your game and then you can yell at each other.  If not on course, leave it at the door when you leave or if he is calling you on course...don't answer the phone, wait till it stops ringing and tell him your playing golf to text you whatever he needs.  Then wait till 18 to read it.

Now...all this advice is worth exactly what you paid for it and remember...I have been married 3 times.  😀

 

Edited October 19, 2018 by RickK

[dennyjones]

20 hours ago, MCrisp said:

What does one do when they have an argument with their spouse and it messes with their shots? How does one get over it?

I believe @CarlSpackler had the best advice but I believe it would benefit you to find a women's league and play with others women.   It will add a different perspective to your golf game.

[nevets88]

Two recent movies kind of deal with this issue, Free Solo and First Man. When I considered their pov, you mess up, you die, golf seems a lot easier.

[Fourputt]

Never had an argument bad enough to carry over onto the course.  We generally talk it out pretty quickly after a spat and neither of us typically holds a grudge.  She told me when she accepted my proposal of marriage that she was a bitch, so I'd better be okay with that.  

[Slim_Pivot]

My answer may disappoint you. It will effect you. In Jack’s autobiography, he mentions how his wife had a revelation that he believes to be true; Players who are in a good place within their relationship/marriage play better than those who are not. He claims the success of Arnie, Black Knight, and himself had a lot to do with each of them being married to an “amazing woman”

[JonMA1]

It's hard for me to enjoy golf - much less play well - when there's excessive drama in my life. Even less so when drama follows me onto the course.

[GolfLug]

Ah I see you have found the root cause of all bad golf shots..😉

[billchao]

I follow the #1 rule: never argue with the wife 😉

It also helps that I compartmentalize well.

[Valleygolfer]

29 minutes ago, billchao said:

I follow the #1 rule: never argue with the wife 😉

It also helps that I compartmentalize well.

Yes, push it all down and squash those feelings... 😁👍

[GolfLug]

16 minutes ago, Valleygolfer said:

Yes, push it all down and squash those feelings... 😁👍

I noo you wuz whipped.. ha ha

Edited October 21, 2018 by GolfLug

[MCrisp]

1 hour ago, JonMA1 said:

It's hard for me to enjoy golf - much less play well - when there's excessive drama in my life. Even less so when drama follows me onto the course.

I just added hitting a bucket on my first thing to do every day. Then go to work. Became a routine. Fight or no fight- we’re both golfing today, maybe not together, but I found it changed my outlook on my marriage. He can’t believe he came home after 3 weeks and now his wife won’t shut up about it. I think he doesn’t recognize this person. 

[Sandy Divot]

Even though I'm giving advice, I don't think you should be going on a public golf forum looking for relationship advice.

[MCrisp]

More of a focus based question. How to block out negativity while playing? Thanks for your input though.