Well, there's the problem. You can't really strategize this way on a completely unknown course. Just accept that the reason you ended up in the unacceptable situation was because of a lack of course knowledge, not because of a dumb decision. 🙂 And then just make a note for next time.
That said, I get really nerdy sometimes (who am I kidding, all the time) on courses I'm not 100% familiar with. I'll go online before I play and research the course from the tees I know or I'm guessing I'll play. Google maps works, but if you haven't already heard of it, bluegolf.com is great for this. Here is an example for the PGA guys today: https://course.bluegolf.com/bluegolf/course/course/hardingparkgc/holemap.htm?hole=1&next=overview.htm%231#
It has a very handy distance tool among other things. This obviously isn't a replacement for seeing the course live, but it is better than going in completely blind and could save you a shot here and there.
Erik, I can agree that when a young player is taught to behave a specific way by the authorities, he (or she) isn't being rude intentionally. Outside of those types of competition rules, what do you teach your daughter to do? Do you draw a line between "following competition-specific procedures" and generally appropriate behavior?
I guess my motivation for asking, I'm happy to play with anyone at any time, including young players. I think there's a lot to be learned, on both sides, by playing outside of your own demographic, but I wouldn't want to overstep by giving advice with the best of intentions.